Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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pattongb 02/28/2008

First I had to endure 2+ hours with the stbx and the bankruptcy lawyer.

Then we got in a huge fight on the way back to dropping me off at my crappy apartment.

Then we start talking via email to try and smooth things out a bit.

We start just laying it all out on the line. I tell her I need her to be honest with me about the other guy, and she tells me she thinks she is falling in love with him.

Now we are talking about me moving and how it may effect out custody agreement and the kids mental health.

Its just too much in one day. I feel like I could sleep for days, but the joke is I bet I couldnt sleep if i tried.

I just want some normalcy back in my life.

deleted_user 02/28/2008

I am sorry you are having such a hard day. This all takes a toll on a person, especially if you are hurting from the divorce/separation to begin with. It has been two years for me. Even though I am still divorced I still have to deal with the ex for the kids. It is unfortunate because after all of this time he can not treat me well. I am not the one who left for OW.

I believe in time all of this stuff will be a thing of the past for us. Hang in there. YOu will have good days then bad days. Keeping your distance from her will be the best thing for you.

pattongb 02/28/2008

Teadrinker: no the talk of moving was about me moving to a different city.

We moved here for her stupid job and I have no desire to live here anymore. But to move would mean giving up some of my custody time with my youngest son.

So its a very very tough decision and weighing on my mind.

tictac72 02/28/2008

I am sorry that you have to go through that. I can say from experience the bankrupcy is draining enough, yet alone have to hear the rest.

I would like to say there is an easy way out, but there isn't.

Some times it feels like a constant fight, but it will fade.

Take care.

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