You are not weak at all! Many women and men feel the same way. In fact what you are feeling is very common with this issue. I have felt the same way for year and it's awful.. Now as a result of an affair I had, I know I have to leave him and stop putting it is no matter what. Of course I would rather be able to leave him for someone else, but that's not so easy. Hang in there and I hope to hear from you if you would like.

You will be fine. Yes, it is hard and scary. You will feel like "which way do I turn or what do I do now". I felt the same way. The weight of hopelessness and fear is crushing. I bought my own place when I left him too. Little by little, you will see that you can manage very well on your own. You can do what you want, when you want. The freedom is intoxicating. You will be smiling more and crying less. But when you see him, just smile, turn around and walk away. You do not owe him anything . It will take time and a lot of hard work. But when you close that door on humanity, you will feel a peace that is priceless. Hugs and stay strong and safe

I wanted you to know your not alone.. I was married for 19 yrs and I tried everything to change things but it never happened. I stayed so long because of my son. I got divorced 3yrs ago and I got my own place for my son and I. I didn't like being alone either I went from living with my parents to being married. I never thought I would be on my own right now. I would love to chat if you want to. Hang in there. Hugs <3

Been down this road as well. Married for 30 years. Stayed through all his affairs because I didn't want to be alone. Then he left and now I have to face all those demons. It causes me great anxiety but the sooner you can get through it the stronger you will be. I stayed in bad marriages for 40 years and now I am paying the price. One minute at a time is my motto. Some days you will be invincible. Some days not so much. Just don't make the mistake I made a long time ago and be with someone just because you don't want to be alone. Many blessings and peace.

Thank you for your words and sharing your experience with me. I feel like if I dont face this now Ill have to eventually so I might as well now while im semi young enough to enjoy life.

I dont know how to reply individually but I appreciate all your comnents and would love to chat. I dont have anyone I can chat to about this because no one around me is going through it.

Hi there, I'm going through exactly the same thing right now (except there was no affair), having to sell my house and buy somewhere for me and my daughter who will only be with me half the time, as will be with her father the rest. It's so frightening the thought of being alone. My family are also in a different part of the country, thought not in a different country like yours are.

What you are doing is really brave and strong. It's supposed to feel scary as its a massive change. It's completely normal to feel as you do, but I can relate as feel very much the same right now.

How old is your daughter? - mine is 12 so getting more independent which in itself is hard as she does not rely on me as much as when she was little.

GTry planning things in for when you are alone, and also spend some time alone to get used to it, and it will hopefully feel less daunting, Could you get a pet for company? Just a thought, I would be lost without my cats.

One step at a time and you will get there.

Hi there, I'm going through exactly the same thing right now (except there was no affair), having to sell my house and buy somewhere for me and my daughter who will only be with me half the time, as will be with her father the rest. It's so frightening the thought of being alone. My family are also in a different part of the country, thought not in a different country like yours are.

What you are doing is really brave and strong. It's supposed to feel scary as its a massive change. It's completely normal to feel as you do, but I can relate as feel very much the same right now.

How old is your daughter? - mine is 12 so getting more independent which in itself is hard as she does not rely on me as much as when she was little.

Try planning things in for when you are alone, and also spend some time alone to get used to it, and it will hopefully feel less daunting, Could you get a pet for company? Just a thought, I would be lost without my cats.

One step at a time and you will get there.

I am so sorry that you are in such a difficult position. Have the two of you tried counseling? I hope he has shown remorse for his infidelity. As for being alone, that has to make you a little worried since you have not done that at all, but remember you are never along.. not really.... not if you have faith... When I am at my lowest and surely frightened, I get down on my knees and cry out and pray for my exact needs. Doing this always brings me peace. I hope that you have peace in your days ahead too . God Bless.