It sure could be a rebound. Perhaps any FIRST relationship you get into after this divorce can be considered a rebound. There are many theories on this. The most recent book I read about the frist relationships after a break up says they tend to expose some of the issues of your big previous relationship. Daphone Kingma, The psychologist who wrote "Coming Apart' calls them 'post-script' relationships. And it's where you can evaluate the defunt realationship and it's lessons are finally driven home. Of course you should try to avoid self-discovery at another's expense. Stay open and honest about what you are going through.

If there is a connection, then that is how it is.

I am am recovering from my break up with the help af some casual dating and no secrets in the fact that i am healing. And it's out there and known. Having R in my life is especially healing. I am not trying to be with him forever. That is not on the radar. We are both taking it slow. It gives me perpsective and and a sense of OK that I wouldn't have without him. He is very supportive of what i am going thru and isn't trying to score a wife. So it's perfect.

A little good healthy fun and smiles is always healing. Don;t deprive yourszelf for the sake of deprevation. Sometimes it's self-punishing on a level you don't even outright recognize.

Anyhow, who knows if the connection will remain when you 2 met. Give it a try if you feel ready. ONLY YOU KNOW YOU!

I think its hard to tell. I'm sort of in the same situation, but I haven't quite gotten to the point of even flirting with a woman yet. Its hard to tell if the new feelings are good because you like that person, or that they are just covering up the past... I myself am somewhat afraid of starting a relationship now because it may be the second... that I might be getting into something for a rebound, to cover my pain, and that me and/or her will only get hurt by it. I am trying to wait a little longer, as I slowly crawl out of this valley of darkness, and hopefully things will be more clear (they already are much better).

Good luck to you, and I look forward to reading other's responses.

Well, here's the thing. Only time will tell if your emotions are real with this person. Right now your ARE coming out of a disappointing and painful relationship. Meeting a new person allows you to take a nice vacation from your pain, but one you still need to finish reconciling. And the reason is because if you just jump from one to another, your emotional state will not reset. And your new partner will, in effect, pick up where your ex left off. This means you could have a number of emotional moments that flare up because they remind you of your ex. Plus old habits that maybe you needed to reform will never get that reform because they''ll simply latch on to the next partner. Eh... I would take it very slow no matter how good it looks to you right now. I would definitely work out your angst against your ex so that none of this sours the makings of what could be a promising bond with your new prospect. I wish you all the best!

Very interesting question I have myself...Ive been separated for about 3 months an just started the divorce process. Im totally not ready to move on....Im too scared that I will either fall to quick or scare him off with my emotional baggage. I want a companion bad....but im not ready.

Good luck with yours..I think you are on the right track to take things slow and keep the communication open an honest! :)