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well The day has finally come. Tomorrow is the day my wife moves out.... we had one more long talk tonight and I can’t stop wanting to tell her I’m sorry. All stemming from my previous career. I worked hard and long hours with consecutive days because it was a weather dependent job. I told her the whole time I thought I was putting her and my family first but she made points tonight that hurt because maybe I could have prevented it. She asked why did it take so long to make it known that she was first... she thinks I took her for granted which I honestly didn’t.
Why do I feel so shitty when in reality I’m just trying to do what’s right. Is it crazy to think that “why didn’t she recommend counseling before this turned only”? I have tried to get her to go to marriage counseling but she said she can’t for us until she finds her happiness and fixes herself. That’s when she told me that she just needs this time to see if she can find her happiness.
I am just sitting here repeating the same thing over and over again “oh god I’m so sorry!” Sorry to bum all out!!
Be well everyone.
I am just wondering...she asked why it took so long for you to acknowledge and put her first? (To me, the fact you DID NOTICE is a plus whenever it happened.)
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Hugs too.
In one sense, I hope I'm wrong. But I don't think I am. In another sense, I hope you find out SOON. Because I found out about my (now-ex) wife's cheating only 2-3 weeks after she said she wanted a divorce. And it put everything into perspective. And I realized all those red flags were REAL. And I realized, after beating myself up for a while, that SHE was just as culpable as ME for the demise of the marriage. And I didn't cheat. But SHE did.
Hey, I could be wrong. But my nightmare happened in 2015 and I keep coming back here to read peoples' stories and there are some patterns that repeat over and over.
I wish you the best because you sound like me. You tried to save the marriage, you tried to do what was best for your kids. Your wife didn't care. Probably she's in the irrational phase of some new relationship.
Best wishes to you. I would treat her "moving out" as the END of the relationship. Seriously, it's not turning around from that point. Get the divorce, on the best terms that you can. Stick up for yourself. And work on moving on, starting NOW. I'm 3 years out from d-day and 2.5 years out from divorce. Life is pretty damn good. My new life is good, better than it was before. I have a new girlfriend who appreciates me way more than the ex did. I didn't want this for my child but my daughter is doing well.
Summary: There is life beyond the mess. Don't get walked all over. Let a cheater go.
There are two things in operation at this moment.
1.) You haven't addressed your wife concerns and she felt alone.
2.) It is my thought that your wife has found another man to fill in the void. Yes, I believe she is in an affair and you might want to do some investigation. The marriage might have a possibility of being saved if you can find out and expose the other man. This might shock her into trying to save the marriage.
Best,
Will
It has been a hard couple of days. Doesn’t help that i have seen her the last two. Not by choice...she had a few more things to get from the house plus she had to work from the house today because cable and internet are not set up yet at her place.
Ugh....this part sucks.