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Ravenck
Ravenck

So today is not a good day. Actually the last week hasnt been very good. I know it will take time and that it wont be easy, but I hate this feeling the Anadonment, of heartbreak. Our anniversary is coming up and it will be the last one. I remember when we got married the hope and love I had. Now I just feel like im not good enough. I still after 5 weeks blame myself for everything. Even if I know deep down (friends, family and  counselor all tell me this) that he abused me. He put me down and took no responsibility for any of his actions. I know that he has checked out and I know that I deserve better. Yet... I miss him. I love him... Or rather love the nice him. It just makes me feel so out of control. 

mirandac
mirandac
Just keep working on yourself, limit any Contact
as much as possible with him during the Divorce
process then after its all over and done "go total
no contact".

I am still plugging away at my own issues and moving
thru the muck. I am much stronger than i use to be.
Abandonment issues can be pretty intense, Glad you
are in therapy.

I was relieved we made it 6 weeks shy of 30 years,
now i honor my divorce date instead which Is coming
Up soon, HUGS
2GraceFULL
2GraceFULL
No one deserves to be abused by another human being. You are no exception! When people are abusive sometimes we become "brainwashed" which is what the abuser wants. (control) The abuser has brainwashed you into thinking you are no good for anyone but them. You are a strong woman and you can get through this, do not let him beat you down anymore. Have you ever heard of being in love with your abuser? It happens because they are good at manipulating you into thinking you are nothing without them. Continue in your counseling and be totally honest with yourself and the counselor. Its time to find "YOU" again.