I'm so very sorry for all that you are going through, so very sorry! I could not even imagine the pain that you are feeling. First off, you are going to the right place. Secondly, another good step is getting on this website. There are a lot of good people here that are hurting just like you and I that can share your burden..

I agree with ddjones27. I'm sorry that you're going through this, but know that you are not alone.

Thanks everyone. I just got into therapy. And I'm hoping it helps me find the root of my issues.

Another thing that I thought of, a so-called man that pimps out his girlfriend is not a man! He obviously has no regard nor respect for women. Does he happen to live in the White House??? That's a joke. Go try to find a man with dignity honesty and respect. I know that they are hard to find.

"But nothing changes".

You'll detach when you finally believe what you just wrote, that nothing changes. You have to look inward to find the things which are lovable about you, and focus on those. See yourself for more than what he sees you. We all have tons of faults, but also tons of good. You are good. Know and remember that, and you'll drop the people in your life who are bad.

Jojored You're absolutely right. It's a process.. But I'm going to try my hardest. But starting with why don't I love myself? What is it about me. That I dislike? That I allowed such a thing.

You cannot beat yourself up! We all do s*** for our own stupid reasons. Acknowledge them, correct them and move on. Learn from your mistakes and don't repeat the horrible past. You are loved and you are lovable

That fool has a hold over you! First things firsy break yhat cord! Use visualization and see you unplugging from him and him from you! Trust me it works! I've done it!
- another key thing to look for is why he was single when you met him to begin with what happened in his previous relationships?
- also he just dissed the girl he had a child with and came back to you and has you selling your body because he's too lazy to work! Girl byeee. This is enough for you to shake your head shake your shoulders and say wait a second what are Earth is wrong with me!
- he is not worth it at all what you are going through is a bruise to your ego and heart. Detach, tell yourself you love yourself 100 times a day for 30 days. Go to therapy if need be. Get you some pen and paper and write a list of your future, with a spirit of graditute. And remember this you are not missing out on not a darn thing he will always be the same man for the rest of his life. But don't have to suffer, he'll be someone elses problem.

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He really does have a hold on me. Everything that you said is correct. I know he means me know good. Also that I am too good for him. I have a great job. Family and friends that love me. But obviously it's something more going on with me. I start therapy on the 18th. And I can't wait! Can you please explain what you meant by unplug? Thank you for you kind words of encouragement..

Hello Broken, we have energetic cords attached to us and we can create a new cords with new partners. Sometimes toxic people can connect themselves to you through a cord almost like a physical cord to use to plug into a wall they use this cord to plug into you mostly through your back Center.
- and a lot of times the things that you are feeling are not coming from you it's coming from them!
- I'll give you an example of how I unplug from a toxic ex before and it works trust me it may take you a couple of times to do it per day and you'll start to feel the person less and less and you'll start to feel the anxiety as you have less and less.
- start by visualizing yourself in a room that is sitting in outer space the universe so is surrounded by stars. Imagine that you are facing him, visualize that there is a cord coming out of your back and plugging into an outlet on his side and imagine a plug coming out of middle of his back and plugging into an outlet on your side. See yourself telling him that you can no longer be connected to him and you are moving forward then whatever you are wearing that day see yourself just as you are leaning down and unplugging your cord from his outlet and his cord from your outlet. Then see yourself turning around walking away from him out opening the door and out into the universe with the door closing behind you imagine him also turning around and walking through a door behind him and out into the universe and a door closing behind him. If you see him being resistant you can force him out of that room with your energy you don't have to be in the room with him but you can see yourself pushing him out of that door and closing. See you guys both walking out into the universe and opposite directions and disappearing this will signify the energy and cord being broken. Do it for as many times as you need to and eventually you will not feel his energy any longer the next step will also be forced the thought of him out of your mind.
_ YouTube Kelly Howell Universal Mind 1 and 2 they will help you to start to create the future of your dreams I just posted a testimony of some radical changes in my life under the username Stephanie R.

I am sorry you are dealing with this but, he will stop having control over you when you stop allowing him to. You are an individual, unique from everyone else. You have the intelligence to make the decisions that are beneficial to you. No-one has the moral right to pimp out anyone for any reason.
I am glad you got physically free of him and hopefully, with counseling, you can get emotionally free as well. I wish you well.