OMG

don't do it!

Sounds like she's taking advantage... although, is she going to actually pay you, since you say you mow lawns for extra income, or is she really expecting lawn service for free? (I'm guessing the latter.)

The Roundup idea sounds very tempting, but choose the high road! ;)

Commiserations. :( I can't relate. (So far, it's been me asking things of my STBX, but not much and frankly--after what he did--he owes me big time and is lucky I haven't gone berserk on his *rse! :( )

He asked me to fill out the insurance papers so I could get on Cobra health insurance. Sent the forms to him and according to benefits he changed the dates so I wouldn't be eligible for insurance. Took me almost two months to straighten out his mess. Then he calls and wants a favor. I don't think so. Doing favors for him causes me trouble I have to fix.


I finally cut off contact and then had to take him back to court twice. He now thinks I'm the B from hell and that's okay with me.

yes, I agree - don't do it :)

Why are you even thinking of going over there and mowing the lawn?

@ Karen, actually, when she first moved back to town, before she moved her BF in, I told our son he could mow it for some extra cash, then after BOZO moved in, I thought it was a moot point.

I'm not mowing it, even though the roundup idea is appealing.
many reasons for not mowing it, no contact #1
temptation to be spiteful #2 she wouldn't pay #3 jail time, after kicking BOZO's a$$ #4

just was wandering if similar instances have happened to others here

I have gotten calls to fix electronics for my Ex. I said well NOT MY PROBLEM! SORRY!

I think you should really use ORTHO Ground clear it lasts for 5 years! ;) JMHO ;)

Glad you decided not to. Take the higher road.

Does this stuff happen to anyone else?

Welcome to my World...

LOL...oh yeah, it has...I just said, 'I was pretty sure you had that girlfriend, Spam, when we were married and now she is ALL THAT. You should ask her. Cuz I divorced you, remember?'

Then I would hang up.

Don't cut the grass, Dude.

(I do have some dog poop I could send you tho...you can go over under cover of darkness and just give her hell...just kidding...)

Yup, this stuff happens...

L~

haha - all the revenge things are so tempting! Best you just ignore the entire ordeal. If she doesn't mow her own lawn, eventually the city will come and mow it for her and charge her. Yup, the high road.

My son lives there so I do what I can to help her with things I can do that she can't. Electrician & plumber stuff mostly.... I'll be doing tree removal there soon.

I had a similar thing happen, when my STBXW left me the first time she had been in an active affair for a few months, and left me for him. At the time we had a 2004 Lincoln Navigater, whatever you did to that car was expensive. She wanted it, I let her have it in the split after she took a loan out to get it out of my name. After about 3 weeks of her leaving, she had the audacity to ask me one day if I would change the oil in it because the Ford place wanted $100 to service it, and she had seen be do it for a year or better for around $40 buying the stuff myself and doing it at home. I just asked her one question.................."what does your boyfriend do in exchange for you p*ssy"

I am of the opinion that when you make me an option you are not my priority, not my problem to solve, sorry you miss the things I can do for you.

I do see that your son would want to help her, tell her to buy a lawn mower and let him help when he is there. Give her a card to your competitor, tell her you are just swamped and don't have time, the boyfriend not being there thing will not fly, he is going to look at it as his house, why should he leave? He already showed you that whatever he wants he does with no regard to what you think. My two cents.

My situation with my exhusband is different. We separated as friends and remain friends, so he comes over here every few weeks or so to help me out with handyman stuff, and this summer I've been over there 3 or 4 days a week swimming and tanning, and I repay the favor by weeding his backyard. Sometimes I have him over for dinner etc just to show I appreciate his help.

My exS on the other hand, while being very handy, is the last person I would call, I haven't had contact with him in 4 years.

wow, has it been that long??

Joy - what's an exS?

I'm just wondering why she would bother to even ask you. sounds to me like she's playing control games with you. If your son wants to do it, let him, but don't take over for him. If she can't wait for the weekend for him to do it then tell her to do it herself or let the BF do it.

If you do decide to do it, leave the roundup at home. Don't let yourself sink to her level. I know it seems like it might make you feel better, but if it does it will only be for a short time and if you're a normal person you'll feel bad for it later. Besides that, you really don't want your son to see you behave that way.