So, last night, my wife came to me and told me that my brother told his son (my nephew) that her and I were getting a divorce. And she was upset by this. I let it slide at first, but then asked her what did he say that was incorrect. She started to say we are just at the beginning of the separation process, and then she went into a rant about how she doesn't want my nephew saying anything to my sons, even though they haven't talked in about a year. I told her that I will make sure my nephew doesn't say anything, but what he said is the truth. She then started saying I was acting too matter of fact about it. I asked her how she would like me to act. I've already cried a million tears, and I am starting to accept what is going to take place. She then asked why I still tell her I love her and continue to do nice things if I think divorce is what is going to happen. I replied that those are things I want to do, as I do still love her, and then I shared with her my my therapist told me. That is, continue to do the things you feel are right, and if your wife doesn't accept them, it will be good practice for the next woman you meet. 

Needless to say, this did not go over well. She started getting angry saying that I was trying to make her upset, and how would i like it if she mentioned the "next person" in her life. I told her there's a big difference there. I still want to be with her, whereas she has told me repeatedly that she doesn't care what I do or who I see as long as they are nice to the kids. She told me she never said she would be ok with me with another woman. Total lie, she has said it multiple times. And that she thinks it's horrible I would practice for the next woman, but didn't think she was important enough to do this with consistently with her. I said I am trying to become a better person, and I am starting to do the things all the time that I was never doing consistently. If she doesn't want to believe this is how it's going to be, and she still wants out, then there's nothing I can do about that. Just trying to start a routine that will help with any woman who I am with. I told her I didn't think it would bother her that I mentioned the "next woman" who doesn't even exist yet. I mean, did she think I was going to be single forever? I don't understand her rationale at all.