Grieving takes time to process your feelings
And emotions and let your sadness flow. Crying,
cocooning and being gentle and kind to yourself.

You could Go to a therapist to help you if you feel
overwhelmed or need some help coping. Many go
during and after A divorce.

Grieving its the loss of your dreams and hopes.

I dont know how long you were together there
Is no real timeline just keep working thru your hurt
And pain and keep trying to heal yourself. HUGS

Dear Charlotte .. I'm so sorry to hear it's been 7 months already .. It must be excruciating to be dwelling on it . 7 months I'm sure felt like it was just yesterday ..
As you would surely agree , time flies quick .
So much so , that there isn't much time left to waste .. Before you know it 20 years by now , will seem like this very day, behind your screen reading this comment of mine .
I'm no one to be giving advice , I myself feel heart broken . But as a third person I can offer an alternative point of view . Try to cultivate a sense of urgency in terms of the life you've got left . Realise how important your life is on this earth , and how much of an impact your love can have on others .
Understand that your ex served a purpose in a specific time in your life and out of your relationship you can take valuable lessons that will help construct your new future and a much stronger Charlotte .
Understand that there is a high chance someone out there is desperately looking for you because you are unique , special and someone's ideal partner .
Bottom line
Be open to change , be open to love and most importantly value the little time on earth in order to make the most out of this life .
All the best Hun .

I'm sorry for any pain that you may be going through right now. You hear everyone saying "it will get better" - it's because it DOES.

I was with my ex for 6 years. Once we broke up - I felt completely lost for almost a year. But I started to take care of myself, said yes to opportunities... and eventually I met someone else. Looking back at my ex - I was upset I wasted so much sadness over him. I was in a much better relationship and was much happier with my current partner. However now, that partner and I have separated ways. I want to get back in the same rut - but I know, that it's not worth making yourself miserable. Be happy and good things will happen. I promise.

Time doesn't necesarily heal the pain. It was my experience that since I was dumped in my previous relationship, I had many whys that went unanswered because truthfully, he wasn't honest with me prolonging the healing process for me. He had met someone else. Don't know the specifics of your breakup, but maybe you should seek professional help to help you with the process?

Sorry you are in emotional pain.

Grief takes time. Have you gone 100% no contact? I feel that all contact with an ex, sets us back in the healing process. I also think the grieving process can even take longer than the relationship lasted. Be gentle with yourself. Sending you hugs.

sounds like you need to focus on expressing the intense feelings due to a divorce or breakup. whether you journal, do therapy or a support group, the feelings have to be processed. Time alone doesn't help. time plus working on moving forward. Take small steps that show you value yourself and are setting new goals. Sometimes medication helps a lot if you are stuck also. don't keep to yourself and replay the feelings and toxic thoughts without working to release the energy. What exactly are you sad about? Are you mad but holding it in?

Minimum of 6 months is normal for a strong attachment, such as a first relationship. One thing that took me decades to realize, is that time doesn't heal wounds.

Really.

The wounds will not heal as long as we focus on them in our minds. What heals wounds, is working on shifting our focus to our strengths, to the brighter future, focusing on the Present moment, and becoming willfully ignorant of the past.

Yes, you may be too smart to just let the past go. You'd rather keep processing it. But at some point, processing turns into regurgitation, and we just fall into this harmful habit.

In short, time can heal wounds, yes, if we focus on something other than those wounds.

It can take a while. If you're still hurting at this point, it sounds like therapy might be helpful. It sure has been helping me! I found a great therapist on Psychology Today's website. You just plug in our zip code and they give you the profiles of all the licensed and registered therapists in your area.

Long-term relationships may take a year or more .. Hang in there my relationship was 24 years and I'm 2 1/2 years out and I'm starting to feel pretty damn good .. I started feeling better about a year out and two years out I started feeling pretty normal

It takes half of 7 months before the healing takes place. Keep yourself active, do something to take your mind off the breakup. You deserve that, then you can get back to your old self again.