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This sucks.

Shan2112
Shan2112

I'm new on here today. Spent the last hour reading some posts and not sure if that is helping or not. I haven't cried in the past hour, I relate to all of the pain - not sure I like that others are hurting so much too. My husband of 21 1/2 years moved out 2 weeks ago and is definitely "done" with me and hoping to have an amicable "divorce" for our daughter's (14 and 11). He is "happy with his new place, his new life, his new freedom, and believe it or not is drinking far less now" that he's moved out. I'm angry that he can finally get a grasp of his alcoholism now that he's "done" with me. But I'm mostly heartbroken and I'm afraid. I moved out of my family home when I was 18 to live with him, we married at 21, and are now divorcing at 43. I've. Ever been on my own. Trying to be strong for my girls but they catch me sobbing all the time and offer hugs which I definitely need and appreciate. He plans to start dating in a few months while the thought of ever being with anyone except him makes me physically sick to my stomach. I can't imagine a time when I take my wedding band off.


I wish it were years from now. 


Anyways, my heart goes out to everybody on here also going through debilitating heartache and fear.


May we all heal and find pease and strength and happiness ASAP.

luvmygirl4
luvmygirl4
The pain goes away. We are here to help with support while it is going on.
Shan2112
Shan2112
I really appreciate everybody commenting and sharing, and especially the well wishes. I guess I'm getting a little better, crying less each day, starting to accept everything and be hopeful for a happier and healthier future for my girls. That's the hardest part for me, when they go to his place for dinner, which they will be tomorrow night - so I'm already feeling anxious, as I really hate being alone while the rest of my family is someplace else eating dinner. They slept over last Saturday night and that was the worse lol no talk of it just yet but I'm hoping they come home after dinner and don't sleep over, which I feel horrible for thinking that way, guilty and selfish, and weak that I'm not strong enough just yet. Ultimately though, my 14 year old who has had a heap of animosity towards him is already getting along better with him, which is really awesome - I've hated that she hasn't had a good relationship with him for years now and that is one positive so far. That, and I don't have to cook tomorrow night or do dishes! Yayaaa!! :P
myhero23-not
myhero23-not
Your story left me in tears bcz I relate to you so much. Although I have only been married 17 years, when my husband walked out on me for another woman, all I do everyday is cry. I feel your pain, Its excruciating, gut wrenching, unconceivable and unbelievable heartbreak. Keep yourself busy and keep reaching out. Dr. McGrail from Santa Monica gave me some advice even though I cant afford him. He told me to not contact my husband in any way for 2 weeks bcz every time we talk, it re-opens the wound. Give yourself and only yourself time to start to understand this shock if you will.