Break ups are always hard, especially if it's not what you want. Going no contact is much better than staying in touch and hurting yourself all over again and again. You should stop the emails now that you have your stuff back and move on with your life. He isn't your guy any more and if he is having a mid life crisis- there isn't anything that you can do about it. Better to give yourself the chance to heal and move on than to keep knowing what he is doing. It's definitely not easy.

I agree totally with LiannaMeZ.
You need to concentrate on yourself and your future and quit worrying what the heck he is doing. That in itself is making things much harder.
Do things that focus on things you like to do. It doesn't matter what it is. A book, a bubble bath, a walk, a movie, going out to the mall or to eat. Anything to get your mind off him.
I wish you luck.

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You both are right, bear with me Almost, all of my stuff...2 important things. I was doing OK, then of course he told my friend about the job change...So, yes a little set back because I do care. I will get there.

I think it normal to always be trying to relate things that occur after the breakup with our ex's to what may have or been triggered the breakup. After being with someone for so long, we think we get to know them, their actions, patterns etc. So when something out of the norm happens or catches us by surprise, we have to find what attributed to it. So try not to worry about "getting over it" quickly, or not letting something trigger you, its gonna happen. recognize what you are going through, deal with it and let it go. Its time to start worrying only when you don't move on from these little episodes and in general, the breakup.

So feel these emotions, don't harbor them and file them where they belong. You're going to be Ok.

If only we could make our feelings magically just go away! I have seen and ex destroy himself and am sort of in that situation again. I have changed my phone number and stopped contact with my ex but I do still know what is happening in his life- a lot of it isn't good. People tend to tell me stuff about him to the point that I have had to say "I am sorry but I can't hear about him anymore- I feel bad but I can't allow myself to have feelings for him-I'll end up going down with him" Some people get it and some don't- it's really bad when people put guilt on me and say things like "give him time don't turn your back on him" of course they don't know the truth of how things were with us either- they only see that he is miserable right now.

Ikr... my girlfriend was good and not trying to ask him questions, he volunteered the info to her. She did say he stood there wanting to talk more and she said she kind of just glared at him, So, yes I have all of these emotions going on but, will keep pushing forward. I know this stuff takes time. Sometimes, it is just hard.

and why do I keep analyzing everything... I hate weekends.

as you know I cut off communicaiton with ex except email to get remainder of stuff at his home, my hope was when he dropped my stuff at girlfriends he would bring everything not forget to bring 2 of the 5 things. With that being said. I emailed him to meet me:

Me: Wednesday evening I will be at Church from 7-9pm, if you can, bring the headrests and car mats around 6:45, that would be great?
Him: call me when ur close. I might not hear the email