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My ex wife will contact me and we wil begin to talk about things a little. It is all small types of thing. When I make a tough statement or ask a tough question she stops emailing me. This drives me crazy because she avoids talking about serious stuff.
This is the way our relationship went to. She would never communicate the important things with me. She just expect me to know them or figure them out. Then she would tell me that we talked about these things. It drives me crazy.
I have asked her why she decided to split up a 7 year marriage after she told me that she didn't believe in divorce when we got married. She tells me that she told me the reason already. I am sorry, I don't buy her reasoning that she told me but she refuses to tell me anymore. I really think that she has another love interest in Charlottesville (from her work place) and I wish she would just admit it. I could be wrong but it just seems suspicious (Us Cops are suspicious of everything).
Her reasoning is that we are totally different people and we are better apart. She doesn't like the things that I like and I don't like the things that she likes. She hates the boat and She likes finer things in life (things we can't afford because of her expensive tastes).
She never compromised either. I am so much better off without her but I would like to know the real reason that she killed a 7 year marriage and I think that she owes that to me.
Damn, I just realized that this is a rant. I am just irritated because it is always the same old crap when I deal with her.
This is the way our relationship went to. She would never communicate the important things with me. She just expect me to know them or figure them out. Then she would tell me that we talked about these things. It drives me crazy.
I have asked her why she decided to split up a 7 year marriage after she told me that she didn't believe in divorce when we got married. She tells me that she told me the reason already. I am sorry, I don't buy her reasoning that she told me but she refuses to tell me anymore. I really think that she has another love interest in Charlottesville (from her work place) and I wish she would just admit it. I could be wrong but it just seems suspicious (Us Cops are suspicious of everything).
Her reasoning is that we are totally different people and we are better apart. She doesn't like the things that I like and I don't like the things that she likes. She hates the boat and She likes finer things in life (things we can't afford because of her expensive tastes).
She never compromised either. I am so much better off without her but I would like to know the real reason that she killed a 7 year marriage and I think that she owes that to me.
Damn, I just realized that this is a rant. I am just irritated because it is always the same old crap when I deal with her.
-SoonToBeX 2008
Focus on the "I am so much better off without her". That is a good place to be. ;-)
I personally dont suggest it. What matter the reason if you were as equally unhappy? Don't think of it as her leaving you but you being given a second chance, a do over in the land of marriages.
I made the comment to her a few times "What am I to you...A house servant or a husband?" You know it is bad when someone asks that.
Yes I was unhappy but I was always willing to work on things....I don't believe in divorce either. Sorry, it is the easy way out in most cases. She was being lazy and didn't want to put the work into the relationship that she owed me.
I am just playing with the hand that I was delt. I have moved on and that is what I must do.
You've stated time and again that the person who left you was her "Real Her" So the person you married wasn't real. You can't have a Real Marriage with a Fake person.
Why do you care?.. why give her your time and energy?... Just let her and her minidrama be the obsession of someone else.
Stop letting her play you and take your energy...she is not worthy.
That being said, I know that I did somethings wrong but she is the root of the problem.
I rarely talk to her anymore....which is a good thing. I really don't care what happens with her anymore, I care about me and improving me as a person. I guess that, truthfully, I have already improved myself and I am a far better person now.
Treat yourself right, and surround yourself with positive things to allow yourself to heal, how can you heal poking and getting poked?
hug
S