Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I don't kno wif it's normal. I know I don't want him back, and I guess the fact we're in different continents should be good, we don't have to see each other, I won't run into him at the store or the movies, we don't have friends in common so no one will tell me "oh, he's seeing someone" or anything like that, yet I want to know... I don't know why and I'm pretty sure it won't do me any good.
A part of me want to know he's sad, is that evil of me? Pretty sure he's not though, but I keep wondering if it's as hard for him as it is for me.
Does that make sense?
A part of me want to know he's sad, is that evil of me? Pretty sure he's not though, but I keep wondering if it's as hard for him as it is for me.
Does that make sense?
You just want to know you aren't alone, since that person was such a big part of your life You want them to feel as badly as you do.
I honestly think we are the only ones who can know what it really felt like for us, and no matter how the other one is feeling it will never be the same us us.....even if they are hurting.
Also in my opinion.......some of us choose to face the pain head on and work through it, and others choose to carry on their lives as if nothing has happened without facing up to the truth.....but it finally catches up with them sometime and somewhere in life. It may not be for years, but it eventually has to come to the surface somehow, unless they continue trying to fool themselves forever.
You are facing it head on, and allowing yourself to feel it all and work through it and you will be better able to get on with living a happier life once you have. I know right now it is probably so horrible, and you wish you knew that he was suffering too, but judging by the way he was behaving before you left to come back to Mexico, sadly he is probably one of those who hasn't even stopped long enough to really think about it.
I am sorry that doesn't really help you to feel better now Mimi, but in the long run you will be better off, and better equipped to get on with your life in a healthier way in future.
KAW, I don't get it either, and trying to understand his actions would drive me insane, so I stopped trying already, it's just the way it is :(
I often wish that she could feel at least some of the pain but that would mean her little fairy tale would be over and she would have to find someone else to manipulate. No, she is blissful in her new relationship and that is fine. I am sure she had to lie to the guy she is with or he is just as bad as she is. Either way, it's her life and she will face the repercussions when they come.
I just want to be done with all the heartache. I want to be done with her. Some days are much better than others and I have come a great way since I was forced down this road. Then there are days that slap the crap out of me.
Mimi...you are not alone. We are not evil wishing for what we feel would be justice. We are normal, broken hearted ex's trying to climb out of this hole, this pit of hell and find some normalcy in life and reach for the good emotions once more.
Try to deal with him as little as possible and keep yourself busy enough and love yourself enough to not torture yourself with thoughts about him...
((((((((((((Big hugs)))))))))))