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Just something I found helpful.
1. I can eat whatever I want to now and not feel self conscious about it (he is a vegetarian).
2. I don't have to put up with him kissing me, weird licking my upper front gums and teeth, did he think that is a turn on?
3. I can watch Medea now! He does not like the Tyler Perry movies.
4. I don't get the disapproving look about going out clubbing.
5. I dont feel guilty about meeting other guys now.
Anyone care to share?
Lee
1. I can eat whatever I want to now and not feel self conscious about it (he is a vegetarian).
2. I don't have to put up with him kissing me, weird licking my upper front gums and teeth, did he think that is a turn on?
3. I can watch Medea now! He does not like the Tyler Perry movies.
4. I don't get the disapproving look about going out clubbing.
5. I dont feel guilty about meeting other guys now.
Anyone care to share?
Lee
2. No more criticism of my 'chick flicks"
3/ No more criticism of my books - I read a lot
4. No more attempts to get me to quit working so he wouldn't feel guilty - hello, would have lost my health insurance and we didn't have enough money to retire,
Lynne
1. I can come home whenever I want (or not)
2. I don't have to live on a crazy budget because half of my income is going to help him pay off his debt.
3. I can eat red meat for every meal if I so desire.
4. I can watch whatever television shows I like without his disapproving looks.
5. I don't live in fear of being "in trouble" for something I did or neglected to do.
6. I don't have to listen to his lies anymore.
7. I can hang out with my friends whenever I like.
8. I get the satisfaction of knowing I can take care of myself and survive on my own!
This was helpful. Thanks for starting this topic!
not my problem if he goes to jail because of drinking
do not have to cook 5 course meals everynight then complain about what I cooked or even bother to help clean up
will not have to feel gratful that he let me live in the same house
no more cleaning up after him
do not have to wonder too what girl he is hitting on now
do not have to feed cows mend fence doctor baby calves and be the "farm hand" then to be asked what do you do all day?
whew I could do this for a long time
thanks
2. There are no drunken men sleeping on my couch.
3. There are no police at my door on the weekends.
4. There aren't festering bottles of booze hidden in cabinets and in toilet backs.
5. There are no hungover morning after promises to never do it again phony addiction induced apologies.
6. I can do the things I enjoy without guilt trips.
7. My daughter is safe.
8. There is no probation officers, AA, Alanon, rehab specialists, social workers, process servers, repo men, Antaabuse prescriptions flushed down toilets.
9. There are no young girls randomly calling and stopping by.
10. And last but not least there is not the empty stare of an alcoholic and the smell of booze seeping out of his pores.
When were ya married to MY ex?
LOL
1. I can speak now
2. I can walk now, without fear of cracking one of those egg shells
3. I can eat yellow squash and zucchini
4. I can do my nails inside the house and wear perfume, and lotion
5. I don't have to smell his unwashed body. He would go for days when drinking and smoking pot.
6. I don't have to hear how fat I was when I got sick and had to take medicine
7. My children are not in fear of him burning down the house or hurting me again. The saddest thing that my oldest told me was that she was waiting for the phone call saying that he had killed me. She is the one at 14 that said don't do this mom, and I did not listen. I still feel guilt over that one, but I forgive myself more and more each day. She is the one that I live with and that takes such good care of me, She feels I have walked in hell, that now I should know what life feels like. I am so thankful for her and all my family, everyday.
Don't miss his flat *ss! Every time I tried checking his *ss out, couldn't make out anything in his neatly pressed khakis bc he's got no *ss! Every time we made out, no *ss to grab onto!
I guess I am pass the time of getting over him and now into the anger stage.
Lee
2. There is peace in my house
3. Noone to scream at me, hit me, or break my stuff
4. Can go wherever I choose.
5. My kids are happy.
6. Noone to clean up after
7. Noone to manipulate me
8. I can see a bright future (something I havent seen in 4 years)
2. No more hearing any idea I had soundly criticised.
3. No more validating his fragile ego.
4. I can watch what I want without him having a temper tantrum.
5. I can actually save a little money.
6. I have total freedom.
7. No more verbal/emotional abuse.
8. I now have my own interests instead of only doing what he wanted to do when he wanted to do it.
9. I have lots of friends now instead of the one or two I had while married to him.
10. No more dealing with his cheating and lying.
11. No more smelling stale cigarettes on his clothes and kissing an ashtray--ugh!
12. No more dealing with his wacky mom.
13. No dealing with his disorganization. The man was born without a planning gene!
14. No more listening to him whine about how hard his job is and how easy mine is. Yeah fucktard, you spend an entire day with teenagers. I'll trade you any day.
15. No more lousy sex and kissing. I'd rather be alone than deal with that shit again.
1. I can say what I think, without him saying crap.
2. I can be myself, not a maid.
3. I can be happy and not cry, just because I am fine.
4.I laugh.
What the hell he thinks he is, anyway? There is no space for anyone, but him around.
Lynne
1. No more intellectual drunken arguments with such thought provoking questions, such as "what did i didn't?"
2. No more urine on the floor, because in his drunken stupor he thought it was ok to pee on the bedroom floor if there was a towel on it
3. No more carrying him off the toilet when he would pass out on the blasted thing butt naked, butt on the toilet and head in the sink (small bathroom)
4. No more asking permission to spend MY MONEY
5. No more of him threatening to let my cat run away, because I didnt say or do something he wanted me to
6 No more drool down the back of my neck, and the smell of stale bourbon or vodka seeping from his pores as he is trying to seduce me with slurred words and drool not understanding why I just wasnt in the mood.
The list can just go on and on.. life truly does get better