We grow, we learn, we adapt, and keep going on. Yes I would have bought her hanging baskets but this Mother's Day is one son with me and I will let him try to call her at her sisters to wish her happiness. Not saying she will answer since she thinks it's a trap to break the restraining order. To all moms out there please enjoy a day of peace and whatever brings you joy just do it!!

you are not disposable, missing good times is completely natural. its his loss. how long has it been?

I completely understand your feelings of being thrown away, being treated as if the last decade of your life meant absolutely nothing to them.
I wish I could be more of a support to you, to offer advice. What I can do is pray for you, send you peaceful thoughts.

i experienced my first birthday alone in 25 years, two weeks later my dad died unexpectedly. things do get better

Its a whole new way of life and just do the best you
can especially during special days and holidays.

When you are grieving its hard to Get all happy and
Get out of your misery. You feel all alone in a group
of people even friends and Family. This part does get
better After awhile and you are okay in your own skin.

Sometimes i have someone else to do stuff with, other
times i don't . Many times i just work or spend time With
Friends or family.

From thanksgiving to new years i play loads of meditation
music on youtube to stay calm. With me its the unconscious
triggers when i should be with my ex. I pray this year it won't
Happen again. It has since he left.

My therapist did tell me women without children Suffer the
most after divorce. It makes sense our ex was our Own family
unit now we have none.

You are suppose to start your own new and different holiday/
special day traditions. Shake things up and do it all differently.
Thats the thinking anyways, HUGS

I guess I can be thankful that my ex never did much for holidays, I won't be missing much on my birthday this July. For the last several years, my boys and I would go biking and tubing on the river for my birthday, then out for pizza or mexican afterwards. That's a perfect birthday for me. A card from the ex and flowers - haven't seen that sort of thing in maybe a decade. It was always a last minute "I forgot" rush to the store the day of anyway, so no real thought or concern would go into it. We need to make our own new holiday traditions. I have two close friends and we now always make it a point to take the birthday girl out for a dinner on or around her birthday. It's something to look forward to when everything else in life changes.

I hear your pain and sadness. It took me about two years after my divorce to get back on my feet again and get to a point where I didn't miss my wasband after being married for twelve years. While I was going through my grieving process, I gave myself permission to be sad and have a pity party for an hour or 30 minutes and then I focused on things that made me happy and what new thing I was going to do that week or when I got to see my kids next. Hang in there, things will get better over time. It sounds like you are a strong person.

Blessings to you and your healing and recovery.