What you're feeling is normal. No you're not loosing your mind. Hang in there it will get better hun.

I'm trying to hang on as hard as I can but sometimes, especially right now it seems so difficult. The hurt is so intense and painful. She took so much of me and just left the broken pieces scattered everywhere.

I here ya. That's what he did to me.

Oh, this is very normal. You're not losing it, you're grieving, and, as much as it hurts, you need to get through this. Some days I think I'm going to be all right, and I'm dong all the right things, then--BAM! Something triggers something and I'm back in hell. I just went through a few very difficult days where I was doubting everything--myself, my sanity, our relationship, the rest of my life...it's awful. I found myself thinking of how to end it (and yes, I meant the pain, but in the state I was in the only way I could think to end the pain was to end my life). The pain, both physical and emotional, is very real. And you are going to feel awful for awhile--I wish I could tell you otherwise, but it's going to be really crappy for awhile. The best thing I've found is to do the best you can to put your mind other places, and do things that are constructive and good for you, but also allow yourself to grieve. If you need to cry, cry. If you need to vent, vent--write it down, talk to a friend or family member, talk to yourself if you have to--yes, it's a little crazy, but your life is crazy right now. Yesterday I got a package in the mail and later on when I was really angry and stressed I stabbed that poor cardboard box to death!!!! I threw rolls of toilet paper against the bathroom wall (I live in an apt--can't get too noisy), I've cried, and beat my pillow, and yelled in my car, and all kinds of crazy stuff. No. You are not losing your mind--in the long run you are preserving it. It will, a little at a time, get better. And you WILL (this is from my vast experience) come out stronger and better in the end.

I have been doing a lot of crying, a lot of sleeping, and tons of sitting and staring and pondering. This girl has certainly broken me in a way no other human being ever has. The pain feels so unbearable. As strange as it sounds I don't feel angry at her, just an overwhelming sadness. I'm afraid of the future, afraid this will affect my ability to ever love or trust another. All I want is to have a family and provide them with a happy love filled life, I'm worried that this has scarred me to the point that I won't be able to have this.

Many of us are going through the same thing - as everyone says it's very cyclical. This morning I seriously considered hurting myself (I won't but I wanted to) this evening I feel much better - almost like there is hope for my future. I spent most of this morning crying (real manly right?). I assume anger comes later, right now I certainly don't hate my wife - I want her back and I still love her). Anger may come later, I don't know yet. This was my second failed marriage - I never thought I could trust again after my first marriage failed but eventual I did (and we had a great marriage for 13 years) - of course now I feel betrayed again. I wish it was my fault then I could hate myself but if it is - I don't understand why. Don't be afraid to seek help look here for local support groups https://www.divorcecare.org/ perhaps there is one near you. don't be afraid to talk the a professional - it works and does not cost as much as you would think. feel free to message me if you would like to talk more. I wish you peace

Hi- I'm sorry you are going through this.
Crying will help you to release the pain you are feeling inside. Just let that tears flow. I hope you will feel well soon. I pray that you will have peace and you will be able to move forward.

When I broke up with my past boyfriend, I thought I could not love another person because I was afraid of being hurt again. I cried for so many days and weeks. It was not an easy journey but thankfully, I was able to move on.

Keep us posted, we are here for you. You are in my prayers. God bless.

Thank you too much to everyone who replied, I sincerely appreciate it. I am trying so hard but I feel like I can't let go, like I can't move on. I can't eat, can't sleep, just non-stop crying. I honestly don't believe I have ever experienced anything like this. I can barely get myself outta bed. I really don't think I will ever trust another person to that extent again. My heart had so much love in it to give, and I feel like I gave it all and it wasn't good enough. I'm so broken. Please keep me in your prayers.

You are in my prayers
I feel the same as your last comment. Please keep trying to move forward