Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I met this wonderful man a year ago who made me so happy. I have never laughed so much or had so much fun in such a long time. Today he left me...everybody got what they wanted...:(
Before I met him I would drop everything when my grown children called just to spend a few minutes with them. Whenever they could find the time for me which wasn't very often. I babysit my grand daughter every single weekend without fail so my daughter and her boyfriend could go out and enjoy their weekend. I loved spending time with her but then it got to where it was expected of me. I felt used.
When I met this man I stopped taking her as much because I finally had a life after three years of being alone. My kids resented me for that. They never gave him a chance. They never wanted to like him. They didn't like the fact that I was living my life and I wasn't there everytime they called.
My son I may have seen for an hour once a week...my daughter I would see when I picked up my grand daughter and dropped her off. They never called, they never came to visit. But they were determined to ruin the relationship we had. For some reason they couldn't stand to see me happy.
It began to take a toll on our relationship. They would call and invite me places and clearly state that my boyfriend was not to come. They began to tell people he was abusive and treated me badly, that he was a liar and a cheater. They didn't want anybody to like him. They did everything in their power to break us apart. None of that was true. He was so good to me. He always made me feel so loved and like the most beautiful woman alive.
My daughter even told me that she never wanted to meet any man I became involved with. So it really had nothing to do with who I was with. She was going to dislike anybody I dated because she was mad because I wasn't there to take her daughter every weekend anymore. It got to the point where she wouldn't even allow me to see my grand daughter when I wanted to.
I am totally crushed today..when I get home from work all his stuff will be gone..I will be alone..just like they wanted! He said he had to go because he couldn't stand that he got between my kids and I. The truth is now that he is gone it will make no difference. They still won't call..they still won't come see me..they still won't have time for me.
My daughter will be wanting me to babysit every weekend again so that will make her happy.
This hurts so much..I don't even think I will call them and let them know I am alone. I so sad..I loved him so much and we were so good together but he didn't stand a chance right from the start...:(
Before I met him I would drop everything when my grown children called just to spend a few minutes with them. Whenever they could find the time for me which wasn't very often. I babysit my grand daughter every single weekend without fail so my daughter and her boyfriend could go out and enjoy their weekend. I loved spending time with her but then it got to where it was expected of me. I felt used.
When I met this man I stopped taking her as much because I finally had a life after three years of being alone. My kids resented me for that. They never gave him a chance. They never wanted to like him. They didn't like the fact that I was living my life and I wasn't there everytime they called.
My son I may have seen for an hour once a week...my daughter I would see when I picked up my grand daughter and dropped her off. They never called, they never came to visit. But they were determined to ruin the relationship we had. For some reason they couldn't stand to see me happy.
It began to take a toll on our relationship. They would call and invite me places and clearly state that my boyfriend was not to come. They began to tell people he was abusive and treated me badly, that he was a liar and a cheater. They didn't want anybody to like him. They did everything in their power to break us apart. None of that was true. He was so good to me. He always made me feel so loved and like the most beautiful woman alive.
My daughter even told me that she never wanted to meet any man I became involved with. So it really had nothing to do with who I was with. She was going to dislike anybody I dated because she was mad because I wasn't there to take her daughter every weekend anymore. It got to the point where she wouldn't even allow me to see my grand daughter when I wanted to.
I am totally crushed today..when I get home from work all his stuff will be gone..I will be alone..just like they wanted! He said he had to go because he couldn't stand that he got between my kids and I. The truth is now that he is gone it will make no difference. They still won't call..they still won't come see me..they still won't have time for me.
My daughter will be wanting me to babysit every weekend again so that will make her happy.
This hurts so much..I don't even think I will call them and let them know I am alone. I so sad..I loved him so much and we were so good together but he didn't stand a chance right from the start...:(
If she's going to withdraw because you start dating, you let her do it. It's her life and her choices. She's an adult now. She can live with the consequences of her actions.
As for my boyfriend today I am really angry that he choose to leave the way that he did. When he called yesterday to say he was gone he said he would call me but I am not sitting home waiting for his call. He choose to walk away and do it while I was at work which wasn't right at all. We could have talked it over had he really cared.
I have always been one to put everybody else ahead of me and they are use to that. But this is my life and I am going to live it for me. Time to start getting out and doing things I enjoy and make the most of it.
I appreciate all the input from everybody. I am feeling a bit better today. Not sure how I will feel through the weekend though.
For example - why are you babysitting for your grown daughter and her boyfriend? If they want to go out - the expenses need to include child care. Oh, they can't afford to go out and pay a babysitter? Ahhhh, too bad - guess they are getting a Red Box and six pack.
If you want your guy, go get him, make sure he doesn't feel like # 2 (if you get my drift).