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The punishing continues

Mitsou
Mitsou

I just found out that he tried to take me off our car insurance, which I paid for on my credit card and is good till November.  Fortunately the csr rep told me they told him they cannot do that.  I've also just received an email from an insurance adjustor regarding his claim for stolen property at our house he's living in.  I still have things there that were too heavy for me and my daughter to move and others he said he couldn't find (he used to use my stuff and leave it just anywhere, everything was always his).  I hope this stolen property claim is unrelated but because of everything I'm slowly finding out he's done since I hired the attorney, I'm getting scared.  Like, did he accuse me of stealing my compost bin?  Or did the house really get broken into?  The insurance adjustor just called me back and said he will email me a copy of the police report, but right now I'm a mess.  I don't know what else he's going to do.

serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
My ex tried to do that too but i surance was like we have to be sure she has full coverage first but he bugged heck out of me till i got it. One of many things that was done so i wish it goes well for you. It will pass but the process is such a pia.
Mitsou
Mitsou
thanks. I just don't understand why some people are so vicious and vindictive. What's the point? It's not like he still loves me, he made that obvious this last year and he and his gf want this divorce! I hope yours is over?
11Christmases
11Christmases
Try to take a deep breath and relax. I read on your other post that he canceled your cell phone. I am so glad you have an attorney. Please keep detailed documentation of all these abusive behaviors. Canceling your phone was abusive. If he falsified a police report, be sure to tell your attorney and try to use that in your favor. I'm not familiar with your story, so I wonder why he is living in the marital home if you have children together. Have you asked your attorney about exclusive possession of the home? Again, try to relax and have faith that you will be OK. Many of us here have been through similar things. Letting the stress get you down will only hurt your health.
Mitsou
Mitsou
Thank you, 11Christmases. I have a child from a previous marriage and owned my own home before I married this current soon to be ex (so hard to know what to call him now other than !@#$!!!). He too has children and his house was bigger so we rented mine out, then sold his and bought a new one together. I don't mind him keeping that house, my renters moved out so I moved back into mine.
I am feeling much better now. It was horrible living with him the last year and I was finally starting to feel okay, these last 3 or 4 days brought everything back. And you are so right about stress hurting your health, I found that out the hard way.
11Christmases
11Christmases
I am glad you have a roof over your head and did not sell your pre-marriage house! Good luck!
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