You WILL make it through, we humans are amazingly resilient.

so true..i just had to deal with alot of stuff with my mom..when it happened before (stroke) i fell apart..this time it was hard, but i had realized the strength i had..and made list and took care of things

Yep, I swear that I have aged 10 years in the last 18 months.

I still look awesome, thank God...

thank god for that, AJ, is it the same butt cream that R uses?

Butt cream ?
No, I have a lot of stairs in my house.

This is brutal that's for sure. I've aged too. It does get easier as time goes on.

I don't know, it's been a while for me since the initial break up - I remember that on that day we both looked pretty awful. But probably about 6 -8 months into the separation I started to look like a whole new person and when I would see him in court I was always amazed at how awful he looked. So, things will get better.

It is funny I see people and they say wow you look great. LOL But damn it has taken its toll. I always said if I can give birth to 7 children I can do anything. But you know that was a piece of cake compared to what divorce does to a person's whole outlook on life. But you will make it and you will find inner strength that at times amazes you.

I'd like to think I've aged to perfection :)
It's been a long road....but I am getting there with alot of help from my DS family
((((((hugs))))) for everyone!!!

One of my coworkers said :
"You eat all the time , but are so skinny, what is your secret."

Me:
"Anxiety."

Yeah, it IS exhausting...up all night, napping during the day, trying to find my sea-legs. Wobbly. But I DO feel like if I can get through this I can do anything. It's such a cumbersome process, though....not just like walking a long distance, but like running in sand, you know , when your legs feel heavy? You HAVE to run to the end of the beach, but there is no end in sight as you look up the shoreline....

Stress can do one of two things with the Physical body.

some choose food as an outlet for the hurt and they gain access weight,

Some eat at lot but, they still loose weight. I went from 222 down to 179, when I had my nervous breakdown in 1985. Not a good way to lose weight.

depression and the feelings that go with the breakup do take a toll on you. I feel so worn out sometimes.

It's a roller coaster. Some days are better. Some days are worse. And sometimes, the ride can last far longer than you expect, so holding on can get to be exhausting.

I hate that I'm going thru this. I hate that we're all going thru this.

Yes I can relate ...I am so exhausted and drained mentally, emotional and physically since this started ...

Its funny though ... it does have a positive affect ... I lost weight ... that was good I lost 25 pounds going from 195 to 170. I might have lost a bit to much weight but it didn't hurt since I had a little bit of a belly going.

I hardly eat but it's weird I eat healthier ... for some reason I only want to eat fruit and vegetables ...

Oh and best of all ... divorce cures lymphoma ... one of my lumps is completely gone!

(I was diagnosed with primary cutaneous marginal zone B cell lymphoma about 3 years ago ... the doc said its low grade and people live for decades with it ... after trying rituxin with no success he said other treatments were more detrimental than just watching it ... so that's what we've been doing ... watching the two bumps for years with no change. This is the first time one disappeared!)