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the letter that brought me back down

officiallytryingtomoveon
officiallytryingtomoveon

today i received a court order of protection against my ex. ive been trying to completely forget what has happened the last 4 years of my life and this just snapped me back to reality. remembering everything that has happened. feeling that pain again. is every little thing that reminds me of him going to snap me back to this dark place? it literally freezes me where i stand. it wipes out the tiny amount of strength that i feel i have gained. i need to be strong. the support of everyone helps so much. so im really looking for some positive motivating feedback right now. i appreciate you all so much!

crystalicious
crystalicious
I completely understand, I've experienced the same thing lately. I've been going to therapy and getting so much better, feeling better, thinking about the situation less, and then BAM, I saw a picture of him on Facebook, and every little bit of composure I had just went down the drain. I went back to 'the dark place' you mentioned, for more than a WEEK, and I'm just now fighting my way out of it. Later, I went to a restaurant and paid for my food, but FROZE when the cashier handed me change because he collects coins, and without even thinking about it, I had started looking through the coins she had handed me going 'Ooh I need to save this one for him, he might not have it". Yes, literally COINS reminded me of him and sent me into tears again.

But honestly, I think this is all a part of the grieving and moving on process. It's not going to be easy, it's going to take time, and there are going to be things that remind us of them and send us back a few steps. We just have to get back up and keep moving, that's the important part. Stay strong, and message me if you need to chat!
officiallytryingtomoveon
officiallytryingtomoveon
Having coins make you cry isn't silly to me at all. That's the EXACT problem I have. I'm afraid to even leave my house cause we did literally EVERYTHING together and everything reminds me of him. I've deleted all social media so that helps a little.

But you're right. It's going to take time. Staying strong is what will keep us moving! Good to know there are others that literally feel and go through the exact same thought process and feelings as me!