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The hardest part is loosing a friend I cared for

Igiveup71
Igiveup71

our fights are so intense, this one led to our third break up. 


I hate that I lose her entirely everytime we have one of those fights. One day she’s here, the next she’s gone entirely.


this is so painful. 

nightfire
nightfire
am going through a separation right now and its so hard not having her here, i miss everything bout her, i worry for her, its horrible i know, you have someone to talk to if you need to, message me if you want
OlderCPer
OlderCPer
3 breakups are about 2 too many, perhaps its time to see that you aren't meant to be together.
Igiveup71
Igiveup71
Yes. Very true
Igiveup71
Igiveup71
Thanks Nightfire
fibrowarrior
fibrowarrior
What causes the fights? Have you sought counseling to try to learn conflict resolution verses fights?
Have you talked with her and set boundaries so you both feel secure in the relationship?
I've been in unhealthy relationships and some of those have caused me to run for fear of being in a relationship like my mom and dad had(being in a childhood where abuse was a huge part- I learned to shut down and internalize abuse/stress etc.)- maybe these fights cause fears and is more than she can handle- without counsel and feeling insecure a relationship will always suffer- so I wish you well and hope that you work on finding away to get to the cause of the fights and make a healthy relationship. Praying for you both.
Igiveup71
Igiveup71
I fight always fair, I try to listen, then explain why I did what I did, and even if it’s hard to admit, if I wronged her I would still admit and appologize. For example I hid that I was friendly to an ex of mine (for who I have no attraction anymore, but we play music).
There are times she is reasonnable, but when she’s hurt she can be a very hurtful fighter, and use my worst fears again me, blame me, bring back some old resolved conflicts like if they weren’t.
I should mention this was diagnosed with bipolar, it might be part of the problem.
At this point I give up. I have blocked her, but she still tries to get to me and send me walls of texts full of hatred, blaming like “you never loved me” or “you’re a narcissist”, anything she can say to make me feel like crap.
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