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Soon has a point in another post. My wife had to "be in the mood" and this was done by doing tasks around the house, constantly keeping her wants and whims fulfilled, and things like that.
It is a vicious spiral. A woman has to feel loved to make love and a guy loves a woman for making love to him. When the woman starts to hold out a guy the guy begins to shut down. He will do less and less romantic gestures so the woman feels less and less loved.
I wonder how a spark is kept in a marriage. How does one keep their wife in the mood and feeling loved other than the normal things? Why is it that the guy has to cater to her wants and whims in order to make her feel loved so that she will make love?
Once in a while it is nice to have your partner to just start things out of the blue. It helps us guys to feel desired and wanted and that is a huge part of it.
It is a vicious spiral. A woman has to feel loved to make love and a guy loves a woman for making love to him. When the woman starts to hold out a guy the guy begins to shut down. He will do less and less romantic gestures so the woman feels less and less loved.
I wonder how a spark is kept in a marriage. How does one keep their wife in the mood and feeling loved other than the normal things? Why is it that the guy has to cater to her wants and whims in order to make her feel loved so that she will make love?
Once in a while it is nice to have your partner to just start things out of the blue. It helps us guys to feel desired and wanted and that is a huge part of it.
Real partnership is not about what you do for me and what I do for you. It is about sharing, sharing responsibilities and work and about having fun together. The mood should be there at all times, even if there is a headache involved, the way to postpone sex is done is such a way that the person understands and still feel loved.
One needs to listen to his/her feelings. These are warning sign, intuition that helps indentify a problem, then with conversation discover what it is it and make it work or not.
You have to know a person and what she values, and see if that fits with you or not. If you clean up the house only for her sake but for the rest of the time you live like a pig, then you are not compatible with her. She will feel that you have changed when you tried to do it, and then resent you because you did it for sex only.