Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My wife moved out six months ago. I feel so much better now than I did then. I was truly caught in so much sadness and pain and today I feel healthy and functional. The man my wife left me for is in prison and she is trying to get back into the kid's lives. I want that for them and for her. They need their mom. Now perhaps my chance to get her back, that thing that I wanted so much, is possible. She is making some kinds of small overtures to me. However, I don't want her back now. I am different. I am over her. That she might want me brings me no solace of any kind. I do take solace in my new found self respect and the awareness that I have boundaries on how I will allow myself to be treated. She crossed the line and my self respect is in place. The feeling that I get from this is not happiness or triumph, more a bemused awareness that I have changed forever.
I'm proud of you.
A Sufi teaching story tells of the man who visited a great mystic to find out how to let go of his chains of attachment and his prejudices.
Instead of answering him directly, the mystic jumped to his feet and bolted to a nearby pillar, flung his arms around it, grasping the marble surface as he screamed,
"Save me from this pillar! Save me from this pillar!"
The man who had asked the question could not believe what he saw. He thought the mystic was mad. The shouting soon brought a crowd of people.
"Why are you doing that?" the man asked. "I came to you to ask a spiritual question because I thought you were wise, but obviously you are crazy. You are holding the pillar, the pillar is not holding you. You can simply let go."
The mystic let go of the pillar and said to the man, "If you can understand that, you have your answers. Your chains of attachment are not holding you, you are holding them. You can simply let go."
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I too wanted nothing else but to put back what I thought I had lost. But when I look back at it I never really had it. I am so much stronger now than I used to be. I know that feeling of contentment. Good luck on your journey T.
I truely do not know what my future holds, but it gives me a lot of hope to read stories like yours. Thank you.
Hug
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