Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Saw the divorce lawyer yesterday - it feels so unreal but it is a reality. I'm not upset or mad at my stbx anymore - I'm just sad really sad that we couldn't work things out, that he couldn't work through his issues, that our family is reduce to be me and my kids.
I want and I don't want to cry. I'm afraid if I start crying I would never stop but at the same time I can't cry anymore than what I already have.
I have accepted the fact that we are getting divorced, their is no turning around, changing our minds, my stbx is to far gone, has been for a while. We talked about the divorce, about the kids, we just talked and keep it civil but the sad thing is I still look forward to hear from him, I know that we are not getting back together and I'm not harboring any secret hope that we will reconcile, I feel pathetic!!!!!!
It is the beginning of the end of my marriage - end of a family but hopefully the beginning of a new life.
I want and I don't want to cry. I'm afraid if I start crying I would never stop but at the same time I can't cry anymore than what I already have.
I have accepted the fact that we are getting divorced, their is no turning around, changing our minds, my stbx is to far gone, has been for a while. We talked about the divorce, about the kids, we just talked and keep it civil but the sad thing is I still look forward to hear from him, I know that we are not getting back together and I'm not harboring any secret hope that we will reconcile, I feel pathetic!!!!!!
It is the beginning of the end of my marriage - end of a family but hopefully the beginning of a new life.
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I did the dumbest thing today. I charged my earbuds, unplugged the block and put the block in my little bag instead of the earbuds. I wasn't happy about that when I got to the gym. What a dummy!
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Years ago, I won a mirrored armoire from my job. It's in my bedroom but I rarely stand in front of it. Yesterday, I had to have a dexascan done so I had to change into a gown. There was a full length mirror in the changing room. I'm aware that I gained 5 to 7 pounds over the last year from cheating on Keto but I didn't know what it looked like. It was a reality check.
What I did to allow myself time to cry and let my feelings release was to get a box of tissues, a movie that brings tears to my eyes without effort, a comfy blanket and pillow, and then I let the tears roll without shame. Doing that gave me relief, and yes, you will feel better afterwards.
I tell guys that the strongest males I know are willing to shed tears, and cry when they need to, even if it's in the privacy of a secluded area.
Stay strong, both of you, to help your selves heal.
Best wishes.
Stay strong, treat yourself well, and know that there are lots of us here who know exactly how you feel and are sending you support!
So far so good, I'm not angry anymore, communication is as good as it can be.
@ jessi - I went through all the phases before getting here - first time we discussed divorce it was unexpected and I beg and cry - I've been sad, angry, I have feel so much hate that it was killing me inside. I didnt want this divorce but I've done everything I can to save this marriage and their is nothing else I can do. I'm sorry to hear about your pain. Stay strong we are not alone!!!
This sound familiar?
@ skeeter - know that dream or nightmare way to well!!! Stay strong and know that u r not alone!!!