Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Tell me again how holding on to hurt and anger is only hurting me. That dreaming of revenge and wishing ill hurts me not them. That taking the higher road and doing what is right and just and fair - do unto others - is the only way forward. Feeling guilty about my anger and thougths towards them. Creating a panic attack for myself - this is not good.
In the video Taylor chops at a tree. I actually did chop down a tree by hand, got blisters and everything. Hurt, but got the anger and pain out. (and got rid of a tree I hated.)
I'm 6 years past my divorce, and it was really, really, really, really HARD not to tell my kids all of the shitty things their dad did to me. But reluctantly I kept quiet (I figured I could tell them later).
By staying quiet, in about two years both kids could list all of the positive and negative things about EACH of us....really well. And put them in perspective.....And deal with them in healthy ways.
And as a parent, I can tell you that this many years later, it's much more important to me that they're doing well, then that I got revenge.
(Karma actually did come and get my ex, but it dragged my kids and other people through it, and for that I am incredibly sad. I understand wishing for Karma.....but it seldom goes well.)