Jgarc, it will benefit you more if you took that $900 and put it towards hiring a lawyer for yourself. Don't believe the bunk the tarot reader told you...she is trying to scam you out of money. Don't believe that junk for a minute.

Yeah, your husband is a real charmer. I hate when they don't want to deal with the destruction they left behind. I'm really sorry you are going through this. I didn't believe it at first but now I do...it WILL get better. Hugs.

Your chakras are not out of alignment, your zen is fine and you are NOT cursed. You've seen a charlatan who's trying to rook you.

Period.

They live off of your fears, and pain. That is why it works. Trust me when I say I was a part of the New Ager movement, and those magic pill, self help book craze. Same thing. I have not even seen an ounce of truth, or reality in any of it, and i have read a lot, and new a lot.

People still do it, because it is hope for them of that magic pill so they do not have to endure the pain. That is what keeps them still looking, not because it works, but because they are desperate. My mother, and my one sister are part of this, and they are the most negative people I know, and none of it has helped them at all, and it has kept them from real help that a therapist could provided, because they are looking for that magic fix, that magic pill that still alludes them.

Pain, and life do go together. It does not mean we can not be happy if we can accept the pain. No one is immune from skipping pain in life. The Buddhists says "Pain is inevitable."

Nothing is a quick fix, and life there is not magic pill. It is meant to be lived. Not saying we can not make that life easier through time practiced methods that I think theorists, and trained professionals can provide. i think how we live through that pain, and the people we become with integrity matters most. because only in pain is love most valuable, and measurable.

If you think about it we are ALL cursed in here on DS. :)

It is never kind to profit off of someone's pain or fear, and it sounds like that is what this tarot person is trying to do. Not cool. I'm sorry you've been having such a rough time and I hope things start looking up really soon. You aren't cursed; divorce is just stressful.

I fell into this trap too out of desperation. I went through a 5 years divorce from hell and became desperate....and of course this "psychic" talked me into what started at $500 and she kept talking me into more (about $1500 total.......dummy me) for some sacred crystals. What a load of crock!!!!!!!!!!! She told me that if I didn't do it....I would be cursed forever. When I finally came to my senses I felt so very foolish. Plz.....take it from someone who went that route........DON'T DO IT!!!!! IT'S A SCAM.
I never recovered the money.
Bringing you up to speed. The divorce is final without continuing to be robbed by that "charlatan" and I actually won despite the divorce taking 5 years. I've been divorced for 3 years now and my life is better than ever!!! We all have some bad luck.....but the only curse/vex is the imagined one that witch is talking you into!!!!!!!!!
I say take the money and take a nice vacation of a night out on the town!

I meant take a vacation OR (not of) a night out on the town!

I am cursed once a month.....:-).......put the money in a a
New bank account that has your name on it..

In high school at a sleepover of all us girls, I played the part of a gypsy and was telling individual fortunes using all sort of weird ways (the way the smoke of a snuffed out candle rises--either quickly or slowly, and all junk like that). So I probably have as much talent as that tarot reader has and I say "there is no future with that tarot reader, do not return to her, she is a thief." Okay, so much for her.

As to your husband, for someone who doesn't want to talk to you, he sure controls when he wants to talk and get together and what will be done and talked about. This may sound petty, but I would text back and say "Tuesday doesn't work for me." He needs to learn that you don't jump when he says jump. He doesn't just get to contact you and give you a date for what's going to be done. It will now be according to what date you want and what you want done.

I forgot, have you spoken with a divorce attorney yet? I don't know what the car arrangements he is talking about, but I'm sure your ex isn't considering your interests in much so you want someone who will consider your interests.

What car arrangements is he talking about? Are there loans on these cars? What are the worth of the cars and what has been paid and how much are the remaining loans?

What property is he considering taking that he considers as his? Is he going to walk away with paperwork on all the cars, all tax returns jointly filed in the past, TVs, etc.? Since he was such a "fart in the windstorm" when he left and was so mean about it, I don't trust him about what he actually deems as his. Wedding gifts and items bought during the marriage are usually marital property.

Personally, I wouldn't let him touch ANYTHING--bank account, cars, property--until you have consulted with a lawyer to find out your rights. You can usually get a consultation for free or for a nominal fee.

MsBlank1: Your Avatar--I remember on TV about the seagull always walking in and taking the snack bag from the store and walking out with it and he did it all the time. No rushing in, just taking his time. I LOVE IT!!! Thanks for that!!!!

Jgarc,
Please, please that tarot reader is a fake---There is no doubt in my mind. The money she wants to scam from you is the clincher. Please disregard everything she said. I actually saw an ad advertising that they wanted tarot readers and no experience necessary they would train. They are fakes, especially when they claim they have a $900. cleanse!!!!

If you meet with him could you take a friend?? I know it's going to be tough, but you will be so much better off without this jerk.
Please heal though, before you try and find someone else. Love yourself and pamper yourself for awhile. Do things and go places you like to go and just try and relax. I KNOW that is easier said than done at the beginning, but you will get there.

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Thank you everyone, yea I know deep down that they are fake. Just the thoughts they put in your head is really scary. It's crazy that all this time I've been wanting him to reach out to me, but when he did, I don't think I am ready to see him.

The fact that he doesn't even say " maybe we can talk about us, or what happened" makes me even more angry. I know I need to work on myself, it's just so hard. His birthday is coming up, idk whether I should just ignore it, or just send him a quick text.

In regards to the car, we bought a car under my moms name, because she has better credit. Sooo legally it's not his or mine, so I shouldn't even give him anything.

It just amazes me how he still thinks he deserves anything after how he just got up and abandoned me... Like an animal

I worked in the banking industry for over 10 years....just to let you know, 90% of accounts opened are done under joint ownership with whoever is on the account having the ability to do anything with the account, including closing it. You do not need him present to close it unless it was done where two signatures are required all the time (very rare on personal accounts). You don't have to see him at all...you can close them out and give him his share in a cashiers check from the bank, or even open a new account in your name alone and let the lawyers decide later who gets what ....there is always a paper trail. No personal contact will be the best for now. Same with cars, if both names are on the car, both people have equal rights---you can also get paperwork lined up to get someone to sign off on a title of a vehicle so if you both agree on which vehicle belongs to which person, its an easy fix--- (a lawyer can help you with this too) and you NEVER have to see him. I'm not saying be mean, you can be very fair and civil about it all and stick to communications through emails or lawyers---if you do not want him to see you getting emotional, you don't have to appear anywhere with him. It's hard, I know, I cried at the lawyers office (we used the same one---part because I was in shock and didn't want to fight for anything and part because I only wanted what was mine---too stubborn to take any his 401k or ask for support.), I cried in court and I cried everyday at work for 5 months...It gets better....you can rebuild...you will find yourself better off in the long run---trust me.I read your journal--- I am 35 years old, working on rebuilding my life and just now expecting my first child...you deserve to find someone who will be there for you and who is in it for the long haul...heal, focus on you, make sure you eat (i know its hard) and find the girl you were before marriage...she's in there. Don't feel bad about crying...your heart just shattered and your world changed....people change and forget to tell one another....Trust in yourself---you will get through this if you allow yourself to heal. Give yourself permission to move on, because you did try your best to keep the marriage together---you can be proud of that---but unfortunately it takes two...and you may find in the future that his leaving before having children was a blessing...cupid has a way of couples finding one another, and when you least expect it---you will be healed and you will find love again. I promise!

Rorschach-Thank you . It's just so hard deing with all of this. It just really breaks my heart to know that I gave everything to this person and at the end he turned out to be a monster.