Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I'm desperately feeling like I need to call her or write her and ask her to tell me that it's really over, that there's absolutely nothing else we can do.. I know I'm stuck in the false hope stage, but knowing that doesn't help.
Most if not all of her reasons she gave me for this divorce are wrong. We went to 2 goddamn counseling sessions and she said we tried. She's so confused, she just doesn't see it.
She says she still loves me, just "not like that anymore". I know I can't make her love me again. She's been unhappy for a long time, and thinks she'll be happier with the other guy, and we all know how that works out.
I think I'm doing the best job I can to be the best person I can, and I'm honestly happy with myself (current situation aside). I just don't want to give up, like she did..
Can't move on...
Most if not all of her reasons she gave me for this divorce are wrong. We went to 2 goddamn counseling sessions and she said we tried. She's so confused, she just doesn't see it.
She says she still loves me, just "not like that anymore". I know I can't make her love me again. She's been unhappy for a long time, and thinks she'll be happier with the other guy, and we all know how that works out.
I think I'm doing the best job I can to be the best person I can, and I'm honestly happy with myself (current situation aside). I just don't want to give up, like she did..
Can't move on...
Maybe she still will.. NO!
You have to understand that she is not you and she feels differently than you. That said, it still hurts like hell. Time will heal your heart and like TD said, Your Brain does not talk to your heart.. Take the time to seek a therapist as this may help you detach. I feel your pain and I know that only time will help you. Make ammends with yourself for now so you can move on. Do beat yourself up anymore, You need healing.
I wish you the best!
You received good advie here so, I will spare you. Just know that we are here for you and write long journals....lock them....wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap yourself whenever the urge to dial her number comes.
Trust me, I think we we were to divulge the pathetic things we have done to regain their love, I would win. I cringe at the memories of the time where I did many stupid human tricks.
I'll stop now.....just know that I care.
I am in the process of ending a 2 year relationship, engaged and all, and I totally understand the hope thing. It is me who is ending it due to his lies to me but it is still hard.
Good luck and don't call. That will only make both of you feel worse.
If you figure it out - can you please clue me in.
I still don't want to believe it and have hope. Fool that I am.