I am sorry this happened. One thing I learned is you can't be responsible for someone else's actions. I also realized that you can't make someone love you either. Life has some hard times but, you will get through this, Hang in there.

While you can't take responsibility for another person's actions I have to be honest with you, a relationship is a two way street and both people are to blame when it dries up. Death of a relationship does not happen overnight. There are things that either were done all along that never changed that irritated the other person or the partner changed and the other one failed to notice and keep up. It may be hard to figure out what happened, but there is a slight chance that either or both of those happened and the person who left never communicated that there was any problem. It amazes me the number of people who keep their mouth shut out of fear of confrontation. I have a friend who is doing this. Her husband has actually threatened to leave her if she doesn't change. Instead of getting counseling or confronting him she tries to keep the peace. I am waiting for the day when one of them actually decides to call it quits. Neither one of them better say they never saw it coming. It makes me so mad. Their marriage could be just as rewarding as it was when they married but they refuse to deal with issues. Both are to blame equally. Sorry I don't know you, and what I said may seem harsh but believe it or not I faced
Possible divorce myself at one point in my marriage in spite of trying to communicate and work things out. I was sort of fortunate to actually work
Things out but my husband ended up
Dying 9 months later of complications from a heart attack. One thing I have learned is that you can't take what other people say to heart or it will kill you. I had to draw close to God to learn the truth and discard and forgive everyone else who didn't know what they were talking about. Had to discover who I was without my partner and what I wanted and get back to life and living. Maybe running a farm by yourself isn't the right things for you right now. Maybe rent the property out and go live some place where all your stress is greatly reduced and get life back on track. Then you can decide on if you want to keep or sell it and what your next step is. I wish I had done this. Instead I hung onto it until it was such a burden and I couldn't bring myself to be reminded of all the memories of my husband and sold the house way to cheap. God will
Help you heal and he will use this for your good and his glory.

I agree in general about relationships. I worked hard at my relationship and took it very seriously. I'm a very attentive partner. I'm definitely far from perfect but I was not given any indication of problems. I was led to believe that I was in a strong marriage. I was told I was loved and that I was the perfect partner, that I made my spouse happy, that I did everything right and that we were going to grow old together. Right up until the discard, then I was not worth a breath of attention. Not even to say goodbye. There is no way to make sense of something like that. They wanted to be together and I didn't exist after that. Now I have discovered piles and piles of lies. So while I agree that relationships have two participants and should share the burden of personal responsibility. That can only happen if there is some honesty involved and both people are given the chance to participate in something real.

I was recently in a similar situation. Not of the same scale, mine was only a high school breakup, but still the girl I dated meant a lot to me. She went out on a trip for spring break, and came back with a loss of feelings for me, and just changed 100%. 3 days later she was dating one of my best friends at the time and I was left alone, with no friends, nobody. Everyone preferred her over me, since she is such an out going person and also since her mother recently passed. I still don't know what happened, or why any of this happened, but i wanna let you know that you aren't alone.