Can I join you in florida. I will probably a loner myself too.

California has some nice beaches too!!!

Tammi - I will join you,girl. I'm stuck in North Carolina for the exact same reason.

Well, try to put a positive spin on this: use the next decade to save money, do research about where you want to live, perhaps some vacations to check out places--in other words, be proactive. This will put you in a more positive frame of mind.

Hugs!

Hi Tammi, Can you make some new friends to kinda give the place a new meaning? Or get involved in a new sport or hobby which will make you appreciate more of what the State has to offer? Maybe there is more beauty in it, than what youre seeing.. Keep your pretty head up! Good luck.. Hugs

Anna Maria Island, Florida....LET'S GO!!!

Tammi - Thank you so much for being a responsible parent and putting your daughter's well being ahead of your own right own right now! I know it's hell on earth for you right now in Kansas with the brutal cold we've had here in the Midwest this year (I'm only a couple hundred miles north of you in Nebraska), and the medical condition you are dealing with. I can only pray now for my 12 y/o stepdaughter's well being from a distance, as my ex has forbid her to have any contact now with either me or my family. He has definitely shown everyone exactly just how selfish and cruel of a person he is by moving to Phoenix, AZ; over 1,200 miles away from his only child. She begged and pleaded with him (and cried herself to sleep many nights) to stay in the area to be around to support her in her school activities while growing up. He gave her the silent treatment for close to 3 weeks because he couldn't deal with the truth of his actions. And, even after seeing his daughter's emotional and physical health decline because of all of this, he STILL was a selfish pig and moved to what he believes is "the promised land" and "greener pastures." I know there is a special place in Hell for parents like him, but I so grieve for her! Thank you again for being an awesome mom and responsible parent for your daughter. I know you will be richly blessed for making your unselfish decision! (((Hugs)))

I've driven through Kansas before. Twice. It's ...ummmm...flat.

My STBX got a job here in CA so we moved out here from the east coast a few years ago. Little did I know that he would leave me here and move to Oregon, but at least I'm in CA because I love it here and never want to go back east, so I am thankful for that. Yes, the cost of living is a little high but I am able to support myself just fine. Considering my love for photography, I am in the perfect place.

Of course, I have no children so I can be more fluid. I feel for ya.

I used to live in Florida and I no longer do. I had enough with hurricanes, with high property insurance rates, and although there was no state tax, you were hit with the tax when you purchased large items such as cars etc. Sometimes we look at another place as the ideal, when it is not. My dad lived in Florida and went 15 days without any electric in the midst of summer and had difficulty finding food and it wasn't pretty.

Sometimes what we dream about doesn't turn out to be a dream.

I've lived in 6 states and I always made a home wherever I was. I really like PA the best. The people were friendly and helpful. The worst is where I am now but I'm just not up to another move and there are tax advantages here. It's a hard town to get into.

@trisha: where in PA did you live? I lived outside of Pittsburgh. My family is still there but any time I've gone back to visit I always felt anxious and closed in. Plus I'm tired of dealing with the snow and frigid temps in the winter. I love California and I love living near the coast.

Hi KAW1962 I lived on both sides of the state. Pottstown....home of Mrs Smiths' pies and Beaver Falls near the Ohio state line. The people were so friendly there and always helpful. Not like where I live now. Although I was born in the south and find myself back there again I have never had friends when I lived south.

Thank you for all of the replies. Florida is like my home away from home in that I vacation there about four times a year. I would love to live in Cali also. Anywhere in the Caribbean would be awesome. I wish I could move now since I am starting from scratch. Such is not the case. I will get out of this place someday! Thanks again!

Tammi

I know where your at Tammib. I live in a small town that has no industry, so it is economically challenged. But aside from that it is a bitchen place to raise my two boys. River and lake, fishing. I promised that they would graduate high school in the same town they went to preschool in. I wasn't sure if their Dad stay in town or move away, but he stayed. We may have been divorced, but my sons grew up with their Mom and Dad, in the same small town they went to school start to finish. My youngest graduates this year. It's really important for the kids. It's nice when the parents do whats right for them.I know you hate it there, but your an upstanding Mom.

Hi tammib,
First of all my hat goes off for you for being a caring mother.

I think that " hurtinandhealin2560" had some good advice (Along with the others ). If you're going to have to stay/live where you are now and want to go to a different location to live. Then research all places that you think you might like. ..Go on vacations there . Start a savings plan for the ( I'm getting the hell out of here ) fund ! LOL . Even if you save a very little each month . In 10 years that can add up . By thinking positive , researching , planning a vacation in different areas'.... states . .. Always having the dream in the back of your head ............. Never loose it or think that it's impossible.
I think that it would be fun and something to look forward to every year .... or more !!!! searching for where you want to live ...........................
One last thing here ........... Never rule out the changes that come about in an unexpected way . I've seen many things change in my and other lives that we never thought possible. As well as a change can be for the worst ( My divorce !!! LOL ) a change can be for the good .............for the best ... It works both ways ....
BTW - If I didn't get remarried , I would be in Florida or Palm Desert right now ..........For the winter . My new wife doesn't want to move away. far from her Chicago friends . I just told her this last week......... We're going next winter to a warm place . she didn't want to hear that . But, I told her ............ I'm going with or with out you ........ If you love me ................ You'll come with me .... .
I'm getting to old to wait any longer ..... LOL ....
Good luck .... God Bless................ Timeman

I hear you tammib! I too am stuck in a place I don't want to live - we were supposed to move out of state and this was supposed to be a brief layover. Now he says we are stuck here forever (well, at least until our four year old is 18 which feels like forever).
Well, I intended for this message to support you, but apparently, I am venting too!
Anyway, you are not alone. Let's all hang in there, huh? And dream beachy dreams. I just filled the house with tulips...it's not Florida, but it helps....