You have to first accept the sadness. Let it be there without making it something you fixate on. If you resist the sadness you're never going to be able to move past it. Sometimes when I'm sad, which still happens a lot, I key myself feel it with the thought in my mind that really feeling it is a way to grow as a person. It takes the edge off when you accept the negative feelings and don't allow them to become something you fear. Your whole response this far seems full of fear, challenge yourself to have the courage to accept your situation and all your emotions and you will be able to take the edge off of some of that anxiety.

Hugs. I know it hurts. This breaking up stuff is no fun at all but you can get through this! We all will. Maybe try forcing yourself to think a positive thought every time negative ones come in? We don’t always understand why things are happening to us in the moment. But if you fight to get through it, you may come to a realization that will bring you peace and assurance that your on the right path.

Beloved, pain is normal in the beginning and accepting stages of breakups. I was in those feelings when my ex told me he was no longer happy...he said that I was "NOT" his soulmate. I felt the worst pain ever. I couldn't even believe that he was someone I once LOVED with all my heart. I know that he loved me at one time and his selfishness just wanted out. I didn't have anything else in my life "at that time" more important than him. That is where I was deceived. There was more to life than my relationship and being with him took my focus off of pretty much everything else. His leaving actually awaken me to live in the fullness of life as opposed to what I believed it to be in his presence. YOU have a time of mourning ahead of you, which is completely normal. I pray that you won't be so hard on yourself. Breath with each day, a sigh of relief that there is something new and beautiful ahead. YOU are valued and worthy and you will discover this through trusted friendships and getting to know yourself in his absence. There is HOPE for your soul.

Stay strong! Do things that make you happy! I am the same. In 2 weeks I lost 4 kilos and I can’t eat, I feel a burning and pain in my left side as if my heart is on fire. My husband told me he doesn’t love me, admited he is chatting with another woman and decided to move out. I am devasted after 10 wonderful years. I understand now the importance of take Ong care of oneself and always loving oneself more than your spouse. Nothing is guaranteed in life and you have only yourself. Good luck to all of us!

Thank you all. These replies were helpful to me as well.

Stopping by to say hi and hoping that you are seeing less pain with each passing day. May this encourage you today: Psalm 55:22