Oh man, that is really a nasty thing.

I was 55 when my wife dropped a note in front of me and walked off (as I was looking at second honeymoons online)
For me, it was someone else all along, although it was a gradual dribble of information after denials and lies.

Yes, this group has many people who have been through some really bad stuff, so you will find some answers to the new world of self doubt, a broken heart and all the emotional stuff which knocks you over daily.

I found someone who makes me laugh daily and Im a few years behind you, but you have to deal with a lot of stuff in the first 8 weeks

She's in the "I need my space phase". She's moved out and it's hard not to call. I spend all day, every day with just cattle and dogs for companions. I actually researched the best methods of suicide. Got a helium tank and a mask. I put a sign on it that says "wait one hour". It's gotten me through so far.

Don't entertain the Suicide exit believe me things get better with time. I thought that way too now I'm so grateful I didn't go that route..no one person is worth that. And believe me there's plenty of women who would love a serene life on a cattle ranch. Don't sell yourself short. And my ex wife trickled the bullshit how there was no one else it was all lies, I was 50 and dumped after 24 years and 2 kids etc so many have the same shit happen to them but it's definitely survivable. Just breathe and go on one day at a time

I agree tomorrow is another day. Never ever give anyone that sort of power over your life!

Yup - I wish I lived on a cattle ranch actually... renting other peoples property after 'owning' all your life sucks. Don't give it up!

Suicide? Yea I thought of it, but it wouldn't solve a damn thing.
My friend topped himself and he made a big mistake, as now he would be enjoying his older years with someone else, cleared his money problems and with his genius in electronics, he would have had a decent standard of living with holidays etc
I had pictures of my kids in my mind and that stopped me.
If you give up on people and life, it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.... and you would lose out on a lot of unknown happiness & joy, just throw that crap away and see the beauty of life again.
Perhaps that's what she wants?

I'm so sorry to hear your news. My partner of on and off relationship just left again for the 4th time this year cos of his depression. He proposed marriage less than 2 weeks ago and claims im his only love. He doesn't want to talk or communicate with anyone he said he wants be left alone. Never do breakups come with a warning that's why we suffer. It was major my fault too cos I picked a fight and told him to leave. But seriously every couple has issues it doesn't mean you breakup after a fight each time. We'll I hope we came to the right site thank God for Internet. Sending my love you're not alone.

What makes it even worse is that she is a truly wonderful person. I just don't know what went wrong.

Often they emotionally check out and you are not
Informed. They grieve and make their decision then
Wait Until the right someone comes along so they
have someone else.

They are no longer someone you know, your past
Life together is a closed book. She has moved on
Without you and they generally wont look back or
Look in the mirror. HUGS

I’m so sorry about your marriage. Please listen to the previous posters, suicide is NOT the answer. You have to find the strength from within to see yourself through this very difficult time. I would also strongly suggest that you seek the help of a counselor. I’ll be praying for you, friend. Stay strong, okay?

This is such a tough time but, like the other posters said, you will get through it and you will be happy again. You just have to make it through this incredibly tough time. I went through betrayal and divorce about 9 years ago. It was horrible and I thought the pain would never end. After a couple of years, I met a guy who probably was the love of my life. He and I laughed until my ribs hurt, we were affectionate, and had a really great time together. I never experienced that before and didn't even know a relationship could be like that. To think - If my husband had wanted to stay married - I absolutely would have. By doing so, I would have missed out. I know it does not seem so now but it will get better and you will be ok. Just look out and protect yourself financially and emotionally right now.

OP, was she substantially younger than you? You don't often see seniors looking to find themselves" or "needing space."

I am so sorry for your pain. I am hoping you find the happiness you deserve, whether it is a relationship or being single. I am your age and have been widowed for 13 years. I have spent those years spoiling myself and doing what I want, when I want. I save my money for a 2 month vacation in the sun, during the winter. I love my life and wouldn't change anything.

I really feel a truly wonderful woman would never, ever, drop a bomb like this one on a nonsuspect spouse. She couldn't have been thinking of your feelings at all.

I know you are struggling with this right now but I can tell you it does get better. Once the dust has settled from the divorce and you work thru the hurt you will feel better.

I was 60 when my divorce was final. The ex was working overseas and totally forgot he was married. When I finally figured everything out I wanted out.

I live alone out in the boonies on 34 acres and I board horses to cover bills. This farm is what pulled me out of all the hurt of being married to someone who finally let me see who he is.

I made it thru the several years it took to financially untangle myself from a vindictive ex.
The horses,dogs and cats were my only friends. You will recover from this with time and a lot of working on yourself.

Each day try to count your blessings. You have a lot to count. You have your farm and cows to fill up time and the beauty of where you are blessed to be able to live. If I can live in the boonies and thrive on this farm in time you will be able to make a different life for yourself.

Trish, I want to come and visit you. I really need about a month with horses, dogs and cats to heal me! lol! Seriously though, there should be a place where people who are going through a tough time can go and just spend some time with dogs and cats. We have therapy dogs for people who have gone through trauma, but no places where people who are suffering from any kind of hurt can go just to spend some time with a furry friend.

@samantha. You just think you want to visit me. I have a lot to get done in a short time. You might really like the weather. The days will be in the low 80's and the 50's at night. I have a good bunch of horses staying with me this time.