Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been separated for about 2 months and at first she was still talking to me and kept saying we don't know what the future holds, now I starting to realize it isn't much as she has slowly drifted farther away and this relationship was different for me as I have never felt a love or cared for someone the way I do with her, she says I can take her out to dinner and that's great but I don't feel it will do much good but I'm gonna lay all the cards on the table and see where it goes cause my heart is aching something fierce, any other time I would have giving up but for some reason God keeps pushing me and I don't know why, I feel I have lost at this point ,I don't know what to do
2nd: is get in the mindset of letting her go. As much as u want to tell her how u feel. Its not doing anything for her. She dont care how u feel. She cares how she feels she made this decesion a long time ago an two months ago she had enough courage to tell u. She has put up a wall so she dont give in she staying distint to be strong. She does have a heart but she dont belive in the marriage she was unhappy for awhile.
Im not saying you are a bad guy or a bad husband. Im just saying there was a reason why she made this decesion.
3rd: work on your self. Make your self a better person you could have made some false promises over the years. So she might not trust you wont change and when u take these steps you have to be precestent in your actions.. read books hang out with friends make new hobbies. Im reading alot of books right now to become a better person and husband. His and her needs is a good one. Divorce busters is another good one.. so better your self... dont tell her your changeing show in your actions. If you feel u must contact her dont tell her your feeling justifie her feelings. Tell her how u made mistakes and tell her you understand her deceaion..
Dont beg plead or get angry nothing do that on your own time. Dont show her that side of you. Give her space if that what she wants dont blow her up all the time. Stop takeing her to dinner. Stop it all u need to do the 180 on her. But dont be rude about. Kill her with kindness. Im not tell you to give up but u need to better tour self. So u can be a better person for your self no matter what the outcome will be.
Show her in your actions an change. Focus on yourself. Dont give up but focus on yourself. Your going to drive yourself crazy trying to guess her actioms and guess what her next move is going to be. So mabey the change in you when she takes notice will mabey spook her makeing her think more and more. Will intrest her in you again. So if you find what you are doing now is not working change your tactics. Respect her deceaion an make her think.. u dont aay this to her but in your mind you think to yourself ok u want seperation well im strong without you. I can make it....