Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
It's been a little over a week since my wife left. I know things aren't going to be the same but i still hold on to false hope. I know she has found someone else and has moved on. I haven't had the time to heal she left far before she actually left. I still trying to find answers in all of this. Trying to pick my self up and figure out what to do next. I have her family calling me everyday to check on me as well as "her" friends. In theory this is great people care but I second guess there reasons. It's to beileve that her friends and family care more about me then they do her they say alot of good stuff to my face but i wonder if its bad behind my back. I have cried over her everyday since she left it was a very hard blow knowing that she has left and wont be back. I have never been alone in our home before. We bought this place with the intent of growing old togther so I went all in. Put money and invested in our house and it's all gone now. I sleep alone again for the first time in a very long time it's just me and the dog, the dog crys and so do I. watching her move her stuff out is becoming the hardest thing to watch. I wont help move her stuff out I moved it in and refuse to be apart of her leaving. Everyday I find something new about what i miss and i have a new pain. I'm trying not to drink but i find my self drinking alot and it's the only way at the moment i can get thru the night. I have lost everything in the last couple of weeks. i have posted before i dont want to go back in to why its hard but my life is falling apart and i'm trying to live another day. I have lost not only my wife my best friend my rock. trying to be ok is extremly hard to handle trying to have game face. My son is asking why he cant see his step mom any more or his step sister. thats extremly hard to look my son in the eyes and tell him the truth i have just been avoiding the question until I can gain my composure to tell him that it wont be happening any more. I have seen counslers and I have been going to group meetings for ptsd and i'm still struglling nothing will be over night but it has to start somewhere and it doesn't feel like its starting.
pain, hurt and rejection to process, then to face and
move thru and hopefully let it all go.
I would stop any and all drinking its not good or healthy.
That is not a good solution to your problems. Go for a walk,
go to the gym, Eat a bowl of ice cream. I did ice cream with
All My Uncomfortable feelings and emotions.
I am sorry for all your pain and hurt, you have a lot going on
right now to cope and deal with keep reaching out. HUGS
I found therapy and divorce group to be very helpful for my journey to recovery. This is hard to do it alone. Seek out help, you won't regret it. Booze is only a temporary fix that can lead to bigger problems down the road.
There is no quick fix to the pain.
Time...I was in the same boat as you. Wondering what and why it went wrong. Time has helped me see and made it clear to me that this was for the best. My relationship was toxic for a long time.
The road to healing, takes time. Work on yourself, try to stay positive and do not be afraid to get the help you will need. Stay strong, I wish you the best.