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My stbx's oldest son, my oldest stepson is getting married in Mar. Invitations arrived the other day asking if I were bringing a friend. Now I certainly don't intend to bring a date but am wondering about the stbx. Our son together is a groomsman and I wouldn't miss the wedding for anything. Anybody have any sure fire suggestions on how to approach what could be a tricky situation, and one more As father of the groom what am I required to pay for concerning the wedding?
That is the responsibility of the grooms parents!
Here is a simple guide and I hope it helps!
Who Pays for What?
Working out a budget for your wedding is one of the first things that should be done, once the date is set. Will the ceremony be formal, semiformal or informal? A formal wedding, of course, will be the most expensive and the informal, the least. Nothing is set in concrete. Who pays for what? Unlike a decade ago, the lines are no longer rigidly drawn. The burden of paying for the wedding has shifted in recent years from the shoulders of the father of the bride, to include the groom's family. Also, with many couples marrying later and having money of their own, they are sharing in the expenses.
There are no longer any hard and fast rules as to "Who Pays for What", but a general guideline follows as to the traditional breakdown.
Traditional Breakdown of Expenses
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Wedding Gown, Headpiece & Accessories
The Bride's Family
Wedding Ring for Bride
The Groom
Wedding Ring for Groom
The Bride
Wedding Gift for Groom
The Bride
Wedding Gift for Bride
The Groom
Bridesmaid Gifts
The Bride
Groomsmen/Usher Gifts
The Groom
Bride's Bouquet
The Groom
Bridesmaid Bouquets
The Bride's Family
Mother's Corsages
The Groom
Grandmother Corsages
The Bride's Family
Groom's Boutonniere
The Groom
Groomsmen Boutonnieres
The Groom
Usher's Boutonnieres
The Groom
Ceremony/Reception Flowers
The Bride's Family
Altar Baskets/Arches
The Bride's Family
Canopy/Carpet
The Bride's Family
Kneeling Bench/Candleabrahs
The Bride's Family
Rented Items for Wedding
The Bride's Family
Rented Items for Reception
The Bride's Family
Invitations/Announcements
The Bride's Family
Wedding Programs
The Bride's Family
Napkins/Matches/Printed Items
The Bride's Family
Marriage License
The Groom
Medical Visit for Bride
The Bride
Medical Visit for Groom
The Groom
Church Fee
The Bride's Family
Clergyman/Officiant Fee
The Groom
Musician/Soloist
The Bride's Family
Church Janitor
The Bride's Family
Reception Hall Fee
The Bride's Family
Catered Reception/Professional Services
The Bride's Family
Wedding Photography
The Bride's Family
Video Photography
The Bride's Family
Orchestra/Band/DJ
The Bride's Family
Wedding Cake
The Bride's Family
Wedding Favors
The Bride's Family
Groom's Cake
The Groom's Family
Rice Bags
The Bride's Family
Rehearsal Dinner
The Grooms Family
Bridesmaid Luncheon
The Bride
Bachelor Party
Best Man/Groom's Attendants
Wedding Breakfast
The Bride's Family
Bridal Brunch
The Bride's Family
Bridesmaid's Gowns
Bridesmaid's
Maid of Honor Gown
Maid of Honor
Matron of Honor Gown
Matron of Honor
Best Man Formal Wear
Best Man
Usher's Formal Wear
Ushers
Groomsmen's Formal Wear
Groomsmen
Gloves/Ties/Ascots for Attendants
The Groom
Father of Bride Formal Wear
Bride's Family
Father of Groom Formal Wear
Groom's Family
Children's Formal Wear
The Children's Parents
Limousine Service
The Groom
Honeymoon Arrangements
The Groom
Travel Expenses to the Wedding
The Out-of-town Attendant or Family Member
Accommodations for out-of town Guests
The Bride
Gifts for the Couple
Guest, Attendants and Family