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She called me all upset, telling me she needs health insurance when the divorce is final. She then tells me she has not taking her blood pressure meds, and doesn't want to end up like Danny. When I question what she means, she told me her younger brother had a heart attack and died. She then asked me to handle some errands for her, and I agreed. She said she is not driving to be with her family as she has to work on getting insurance.
I do not like seeing her (or anyone) in distress. I would offer to drive her, but she told me she does not want my help in her private matters. In the meantime today was supposed to be the day she presented a settlement offer. My atty is waiting until tomorrow before proceeding with a more agressive ending to this, as she has scheduled a hearing for next week.
I am sad about her brother, he was a good man. I am sad about her response to me, just further proof that the marriage is dead.
I do not like seeing her (or anyone) in distress. I would offer to drive her, but she told me she does not want my help in her private matters. In the meantime today was supposed to be the day she presented a settlement offer. My atty is waiting until tomorrow before proceeding with a more agressive ending to this, as she has scheduled a hearing for next week.
I am sad about her brother, he was a good man. I am sad about her response to me, just further proof that the marriage is dead.
So, i mourned for her father privately, knowing that she would face her judgement someday as well.
I will say a prayer for you and the whole situation.
Its tough, I do know and care about the in-laws. I called her to offer to drive her to her family (4 hour drive) but she didn't want to hear it. And she told me she did not want me calling any of her family to offer condolences. I guess I'll do what she wishes, even though it doesn't seem right to me. I don't want to sound jaded, but its like another of her control issues that I so detest.
At the minimum call the family and express your condolences to them. They will appreciate it. If you don't they might get the wrong impression and think you don't care.
You shouldn't let your stbx control your actions anymore. It's not between you and her, it's between you and your in-laws and she has no right to tell you what to do in this matter.
Call them, please, it's the right thing to do!
A prayer for Steve and his in-laws.