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Staying in Bed - AGAIN

LeeKay
LeeKay

It's Saturday, which I love! But I have no desire to get out of bed. I spent ALL day last Saturday in bed and I'm quickly repeating that behavior today. I just received an invite to come to a pool party, but I just don't want to. I wish I wanted to. I know if I went it would be a great time, I just don't have the motivation to get up and get ready. UGH!! I hate this feeling! I'm truly confused. I'm happier now that I'm not under his control. But I'm struggling with depression. What is that about?!?!?! I need to move on with my life. How do I do that? I have a great job, that I love. If I didn't, I'm sure I would stay in bed all the time. Anybody else out there going through this too? Thanks for reading.

sjs777
sjs777
i know just how you feel. many days the strength to get out and do things feels insurmountable. sending you a hug. you're not alone
sjs777
sjs777
its times like these where the adage; fake it until you can make it often helps; whereby you force yourself to get out. i know, i know, easier said than done. stay strong
LeeKay
LeeKay
Thank you!!
sjs777
sjs777
Anytime. For what it's worth I'm trying the same today for myself
PeteMason
PeteMason
Just go with it, whatever you do resist the urge to be self-critical, instead be gentle with yourself, and as for your depression, it is natural given what is currently going on in your life.
AnxietyFreak40
AnxietyFreak40
I spent a lot of time like that when I first moved out also. Your heart, body, and mind need time to heal. It will get better.
LeeKay
LeeKay
Thank you!
Danceintherain
Danceintherain
It's okay to do whatever you want to do and don't feel guilty about it. Give yourself permission. Don't judge yourself. If you want to stay in bed all weekend then stay in bed. It's your time and you can do whatever you want. Enjoy giving yourself a break. It's okay to unplug and veg out.
I've had many a day where I just sat on the couch and stared blankly at the TV. I just couldn't make myself go to the gym or leave the house. At first I'd feel bad but then I realized that right then I needed to just sit on the couch. I needed to "escape" for awhile. So I gave myself permission and stopped judging myself. I allowed myself to enjoy sitting on the couch. Enjoy laying in bed. Hugs.