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Ravenck 03/28/2017

I accidently saw a picture of my soon to be ex on facebook doing a trip that we planned together and I thought I would be more upset then I was. I thought I would sob in despair and wish I was there with him. I stared at the picture and it was looking at a face of a stranger... Ive known this man for most of my life and looking at him... I felt sad for him. He didnt look happy and even though im a long way off from being better I honestly am glad to be away from the situation. He told me before I left that he was beyond me. I think its the other way around, I think Ive grown up because of this experience and Im finally figuring out who I am as me, rather then being someones wife. Yes, i will have bad days and I will cry... But things are starting too not look so hopeless.

Karen_31 03/29/2017

Good for you!

I had a revelation today. All this time I've been thinking that my husband left because I'm not enough for him, but actually I think he might not be enough for me.
He is 32 years old, with a wife and daughter and all he wants it's behave like a 17-year-old with no responsibilities...
It's not enough for me.

Wombat123 03/29/2017

That sounds so positive. .. good luck

trisha9054 03/29/2017

This means you are starting to think about making a new life for yourself. That you have moved away from so many thoughts of your stbx. I remember when I got a phone call for the ex and I said John doesn't live here anymore and I hung up the phone. I felt like I had made a major step forward and went on about my day.

LostAndRejected 03/29/2017

Similarly, my ex started her vacation with the new guy today. Oddly it hasn't bothered me at all that she's with someone new. I don't care whether he's good, bad or indifferent for her. She's my past and I'll always have that with her but I don't see any part of my future needing her other than co-parenting.

That he's taking my kids on the vacation and trying to make a place in their lives still makes me jealous as all hell and will take some more work on my part.

I still have bad days, but they're more focused on my kids and how little I get to see them. I've just been hoarding the good feelings from when I get to see them to make it through the hard times.

I'm so happy to hear that you've turned a corner for the better and see that there's life beyond this horribleness. Remember you're never alone.

Ravenck 03/29/2017

I think there will be some bad days... But i think that the more im away from my ex the better off i will be. I cant keep pretending to be someone im not. I have to admit i havent been happy in awhile.

Ravenck 04/04/2017

In the end it doesnt matter if my ex had a affair. I know he is hiding something, i dont know what and i dont know if i really care anymore. I have to focus on me and my happiness, i can no longer focus on him. Do apart of me miss him...yes.. But the man i thought he was didnt exist. He was a fantasy.

Bluejade8 04/04/2017

I think that's great-good for you!

ripped_my_heartout 04/04/2017

That's good news. You are heading in the right direction. The dust is settling and you are starting to see things for what the were. My stbx had multiple affairs. At first I though was 1 then I found out about 2 then 3 then 4 and on and on.......
My point is eventually I stopped caring about how many. Doesn't matter to me how many anymore. She is not the same person I knew, loved or cared for. I no longer worry about her, only myself and the kids. Repairing myself and getting stronger everyday and moving on.
Your on your way to healing. Stay strong and positive.
-HUGS-

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