YOU didn't deserve this L. You married a man you believed was of good character and he was not. Now, think back on your goals and resurrect them. What did you always want to do? Start thinking and start dreaming. You have a lively spirit and it's time to let it all out. You can't change him, but you can still LIVE!

Awww i'm so sorry your hurting like this....I pray all the time now....I have literally given all of this to God and I do not consider myself that religious. Another good book is the Ex-factor - it talks alot about how to use this ending as way to re-start your life in a positive light. I hope you feel better and have a better weekend. ((((((L)))))))

OMG.. llmt.. I hurt so bad for you!

You are not guilty of anything... what could you possibly be guilty of? Working your ass off to save your marriage, when you were married to a complete ass that cares about no one but hisself? No, sweetie, you are guilty of nothing.. please believe that and remember that your kids saw their mother try to hold the family together and their father flaunt his whore in front of their sweet mother and the pain that it caused her.. no, they may be too young right now to understand, but someday soon.. they will and he will be the one to suffer in the eyes of your children...

Another thing.. sweetie, you HAVE to get the hell out of there.. the money is no longer the issue with you.. your sanity and happiness is way more important than the money.... If you need anything to help prepare for that, please don't hesitate to ask.... I love you.. you are a true sweetheart!

Actually, someone that has been a great friend and support to me, has told me to journal for them when they get older. Write letters to them so they may understand someday how you felt b/c later we may not remember. I think I will do that. Thought this may help others feeling this way....thank you FD, with all sincerity, thank you.

If I could take the pain away from you...I WOULD I A NEW YORK SECOND! Alas...I cannot...so, I will sit next to you and whisper in your ear of how awesome you are. This will pass and I don't mind reminding you of what you don't see. YOU.

Yeah....I know I need to get my head outta my ass, is what I need to do...just hard when little ones mention triggers they don't know are triggers.

Triggers for me...are opportunities....just saying....ME LOVE YA...

Reading your thread is very bittersweet for me. My heart breaks for you and your pain... but at the same time, it makes me believe that there are still women out there that would work on a relationship, instead of just kicking it to the curb.
I feel badly that I find comfort in your pain. It's amazing how easily they move on, isn't it? How it's like scissors have just cut you of the life. The life you helped build.
It really isn't fair.. .and it's OK to feel that way. It's part of healing process. Just don't stay there for too long, rebuild your life when the time comes...
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Keep your chin up.

Hugs.

(((((llmt))))) I love the idea of journaling for the children That is something that they will treasure when they get older. I am sorry for your pain. I agree, you did all you could. He did it. Not you. I am sorry...now have that Friday beer!!

IDK either babe....just hope is all. (((HUGS)))) never feel bad for having feelings...lets you know your alive

Because you would of done all to make him happy, if you knew. All value what lost, even not valuable.

How do you get closure when you have no explanation? I kept asking why? I was told the question was not "why" but "what for?"