Aw sorry to hear of the struggles. Take it one day at a time. It's a process just taking it in. Hopefully you have some support. I know I didn't have much which makes it hard but one day at a time focus on.

I do not come here often any more. My divorce has been 9 years. But this was one of the first places I found, and it was essential to me. At first I wrote about the devastation I felt.I was married for 32 years when my wife asked for mine. I also completely melted down. It hurt me so bad, I thought I would die. I even got very close to doing myself in a couple of times. Every day I cried, every night I went to bed filled with the deepest pain. My life held no future. I would wake up in the middle of the night, my heart aching. I could not see myself getting through to next day. So, I tried to make it just to the next second. Then the next. You don't have to worry about making it to the next hour. Just make it through this next minute. For me, just talking about it helped. I am sure I am not the first to say this next thing. You will make it. I do not know how yet. You don't know how. So right now, as you read this, just try to make it to the next minute. Then go read the sorrow that others have expressed here. Then tell us about yours some more. I promise you, there are folks that care about you. You are not alone

Thank you both for your kind words of support, I too have very down moments and don’t see light at the end of the tunnel, I do have 2 very precious dogs who are always by my side and good friends but at the end of the day I feel very lonely and worried, I also can’t help but think of all the things we have done together and plans we had for the future. I try not to think of him at all but find it very difficult. Thanks

Hi steph65, I am so sorry to hear this news! That had to be a real holiday spoiler :( This reminds me of the saying, "life changes in the blink of an eye". I've actually experienced something similar in my life, and the hardest part for me was the feeling of not being in control of my life, of free-falling.

Know that you are stronger than you feel at this moment! Take a deep breath and focus on one minute at a time, if that's all you've got. Have you thought about maybe working with a counselor until you feel stronger? I'll be praying for you!

In place of your pain send him a gift with a card “we never owned each other so I respect your choice. Though disappointing I can’t be selfish; your choice is yours just as my choice is mine. Thank you for your time you did share with me and the positive memories.” Then do yourself a favor: soothing bath, soft music, and go on a date. Not a hook up. Just a regular date. Day date. A walk, lunch, conversation solely on things you are interested in. So you have to find someone you respect who would agree. Then go laugh, go smile, go cry if you have to, but just live.