No, he really is...with a stress induced illness which is mostly self inflicted and could be fatal. He had been doing better, much better for quite awhile. Finally had it out with him on a number of subjects. I was not unkind, but I was firm. Apparently I needed to have this out with him because this morning I woke up with this strange sense of calm. Finally realized you can't squeeze blood out of a proverbial stone. You can't get empathy from somebody who doesn't have it. Somebody who doesn't have the courage to face the consequences of their own behavior will not make amends. Best for me to move on realizing his next relationship will be as messed up as the one he used me to get out of. So now today I find out he is back in the hospital with another bout of the stress induced illness he got obsessing over his ex while dumping on me. Yet, a part of me feels bad. Keep reminding me this is not my fault and that continuing to accept his abuse of my kindness toward him, his thoughtlessness and his cruelty would not have gotten him well. See, for some time stuff has rolled downhill; his ex dumped on him, so he dumped on me, and just decided to get out of the bottom of the ravine and quit serving as the dumping ground for thoughtful and cruel behavior. So why do i fell so bad? Damn, just when I get free,even Mother Nature intervenes to make me sorry for him.