i am 25years old and i was in a long term realtionship with  my ex for 4 years. I believed we were soul mates, we were so alike, always got on so well, never rowed, loved each other to bits. things in my eyes were prefect i truly believed i would marry this guy. Everyone always said we were so suited to each other - we called ourselves the power couple. we always did things for one another - it was equal. we met when we were 19 and i was his first proper girlfriend but he was my 3rd relationship - but i can honestly say he was my first love! i was so in love with him. 

into our 4th year together i'll admit things seemed to have died down abit;- i.e we werent going out on dates as much but i believed this was because we had 2 expensive holidays to pay off for. Me & Him went to Dubai this year and he went to Vegas after with his mates. (from when we first met he has always gone on lads holidays - and i loved and trusted him so much that it wasnt a problem for me at all) although this year was different! so in august he goes to vegas with his mates and of course i wished him well and hoped that he had a good time. Whilst he was away we text each other everyday (the important thing to know is that HE was texting me everyday - not me texting him, only because i didnt wanna ruin his holiday i wanted him to enjoy himself) anyway the texts between us were totally normal...he was asking how i was, if i missed him, saying he loved me [normal stuff] he also said that he was going to try and win some money for us so we could try and move out when he was bak as we had started talking about saving for a house. 

the day he got home he asked me to come round after work as he said he missed me, he also brought me home some presents from vegas [perfume and a pandora braclet] which i loved. things again were normal between us;- cuddling and kissing on the sofa, i was so happy he was home. the next day i went round again after work and he said he thought we shouldnt be together anymore!!! so out the blue i couldnt believe what was coming out of his mouth;- he said that he felt like he had fallen out of love with me and that he knew he wouldnt get that feeling back if we worked at it. of course i was utterly shocked and heartbroken as i didnt see any signs that there were problems! he said that whilst he was in vegas he didnt really miss me as much as he thought he would but i said to him that weve been together this long that you dont really miss each other madly like you do in the 'honeymoon' period of a realtionship and in all honesty he was only gone for 5days! 

so as you can imagine i was an utter mess and begged him not to do this as i believed we truly had something were fighting for - he said he was sorry and that he still really cared for me and wanted to stay friends - i said i couldnt be friends as my feelings were still strong. i also asked that if he thought about breaking up with me, why did HE text me everyday, saying i love you and why did he buy me presents? and why was he kissing and cuddling me the day he got home? it made no sense at all!!! 

a couple of days after i went onto his facebook and had noticed that he recently became friends with a girl...i went onto her facebook page and noticed she was out in vegas the same time as him. so of course i put 2 and 2 together and confronted him about it. 

i asked who the girl was and if he has cheated!!!  he claims that he didnt cheat  on me but that she was a girl from a group of people him and his friends met out there that happened to be from essex as well. i said if he had kissed her or anything out there - he again said no that he would never do that. [i still didnt believe him] but when i asked more questions about her he said that he had met up with his since being home twice! [baring in mind this was a week after we had split up]!!! 

i was livid - i said why are you taking someone you barely know out on dates after just dumping me! he couldnt asnwer any of my questions properly, but he did say that he quite liked her but he didnt know what he wanted or what was going to happen. he basically just said that what he does now is none of my business and that i should just forget about him and move on! 

the way he was talking to me was as if he was a completly different person. he had no emotion in his face as i was crying about him taking someone else out so quickly after we had split - i asked if i ever meant anything to him! he said of course i care about you but this just isnt going to work anymore i know how i feel. since then he has blocked me from all social media and blocked my number completely cutting me out!!! i just dont understand how he can be so cold and just move on after a week of splitting with me. 

4 weeks after that chat - i then discover that he had taken her out to his families holiday home in spain!!! - i really dont understand how he can be so sure about a girl he barely knows to take her on holiday! 

it has now been 4months since out split and he has also since taken her away on a weekend away with his friends and their girlfriends and now also just returned from another trip away to berlin. i am so confused as to how someone can be this involved with someone else that they do not fully know! i wouldnt go on holiday with a boy i was dating after 4weeks - its crazy!!! 

so my question is;- what do you think this is? is it a rebound realtionship? [as they have made it facebook offical that they are in a realtionship] is he fully over me? why is he moving on so fast and quickly? is there hope that he could realise and come back to me. i just dont know what to think? i still cant get my head around the whole thing. i had everything i wanted and we were so happy together untill he went on that holiday!? 

all realtionships go through rough patches so why did he throw in the towl so quickly without even trying? 

regards

M.J