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so hard to push forward so easy to fall

BrooklynnMB
BrooklynnMB
I feel like I try so hard sometimes to push forward and I make progress and start to feel better. But then it's so easy to slide back again and end up back in bed with my tears.
BrooklynnMB
BrooklynnMB
I just see other guys and I think that not one of them is as good as my ex was for me.
Hurtforloving
Hurtforloving
Instead of thinking how no guy can compare, think of yourself first. Think of your wants and need. Think of what you can do to improve your situation. You,you, YOU.

I am trying that as opposed to constantly thinking I can never let another guy in my life. I am not looking. I have too much to do.
And if I didn't I think I would lose it entirely. It does get easier. You will have days where you fall right back. All we can do is keep on getting up again.
I hope you feel better
JennsJo
JennsJo
Aww sorry, what happened if you care to share.
HeadedtoBama
HeadedtoBama
When I was with my ex, everything was bad, but now that we are apart, all I remember are the good times. It's just facing the fact that you can't go back. Hang in there...I'm a true believer that things happen for a reason. When one door closes, another one opens. Try to look forward to a positive future.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's all part of the process
keelyc
keelyc
I am going through a confusing point in my relationship as well. Mine is relatively new, though. My only advice for you is to listen to reply #2. We all want to be loved and wanted. But the most lonely feeling you will ever have is when you're with someone simply because you don't want to be by yourself. This is why, when you are still dealing with feelings for someone else, 'moving on' should not mean 'moving on with someone else.' Don't look at guys as potential partners. Look at them as potential friends, if you find a nice one. Good friends will make you feel so much better. I don't know the latest on your situation, but I genuinely believe No Contact is the best for you. It *will* help you heal. I was right where you were six months ago, lamenting over my ex (we broke up in Nov. 2012). I broke NC and had to start all over after nine months of it. It put me on the couch for days, too depressed to even go to work. But, here I am, still kickin'! I have almost seven months under my belt again, and I feel great. Whatever's going to happen, Brooklynn, it is not going to be because you forced someone into it. They're going to push back, and it's going to get ugly. Trust me, I've made that mistake many times, and it's a lesson I have finally learned. Hugs.