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It's HOT out there.
Saturday night I called my daughter to see if any one has put up the window air conditioners. It was not. So, I asked my daughter to ask my wife if she wanted me to, my daughter handed the phone to my wife and I told her I do not want to talk to her because I might get in trouble with the RO. She said I will not. So I asked her if she wanted me to put up the air conditioners. She said she will get back to me.
On 10pm Sunday night, my father-in-law called me to tell me my kids are really hot and cannot sleep and asked me to put up the air conditioners. I told him I do not want to get in trouble she might call the police on me. He said, he talked to my stbx and she promised not to call the police, and if she did, he will back me up saying my wife wanted me there. So, I went and put up the air conditioners.
While I was there, she tried to talk to me, I tried to ignored her, but she kept trying to talk to me and ask questions. It took half an hour to put up three window air conditioners in all three bedrooms.
When I was done, I just left. She did say thank you and added a comment saying, "SEE I DIDN'T CALL THE POLICE."
So, did I do the right thing?
Saturday night I called my daughter to see if any one has put up the window air conditioners. It was not. So, I asked my daughter to ask my wife if she wanted me to, my daughter handed the phone to my wife and I told her I do not want to talk to her because I might get in trouble with the RO. She said I will not. So I asked her if she wanted me to put up the air conditioners. She said she will get back to me.
On 10pm Sunday night, my father-in-law called me to tell me my kids are really hot and cannot sleep and asked me to put up the air conditioners. I told him I do not want to get in trouble she might call the police on me. He said, he talked to my stbx and she promised not to call the police, and if she did, he will back me up saying my wife wanted me there. So, I went and put up the air conditioners.
While I was there, she tried to talk to me, I tried to ignored her, but she kept trying to talk to me and ask questions. It took half an hour to put up three window air conditioners in all three bedrooms.
When I was done, I just left. She did say thank you and added a comment saying, "SEE I DIDN'T CALL THE POLICE."
So, did I do the right thing?
You did a kind thing but it could have landed you in jail if there was a restraining order out there.
In a pinch who is the father in law going to back you or his daugher?
What can you do when your kids are on the line? I'm glad your guardian angel looked out for you.
I don't know what your finances are, but if possible perhaps hire someone to help out there sometimes in a pinch like that? Like a handyman service?
I hate that for you. I really do. I hope the universe brings you some good for the good you put out there ~tb
My lawyer advised me not to communicate with her. Do not respond to her unless it is about the kids.
My stbx only uses the RO when it is convenient for her. She will use it unless she needs something from me.
This can be twisted at any point back on you as it is your word vs hers and her dads.
As far as the kids, I do not think your kids where in any danger from the heat, more so a discomfort, which while sucks for them, is something you should not have risked jail over. If you absolutly had to put them up for your kids sake, you should have had her dad tell her to leave the house while you did it and had it all in writing.
But again, air conditioning is not life or death, it is a convienance
Your heart was in the right place, but concerning an RO, think with your head. From now on, get it in writing or bring a police officer with you, or offer to take the kids yourself.