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So crushed and confused

dagon1013
dagon1013

I need help trying to figure out what to do! I just recently got told by my wife of 7 yrs together for 10 that she wasn't happy and she needed to find herself. So she left me, one reason I'm so confused is just the day before she was happy or so it seemed and telling me she can't wait for me to get home (I work on the river gone for 28days at a time) how much she loved me and needed me. And the next day this. We have two kids and a real life together. I've invested so much time and love in our relationship and now I'm here like what do I do how do I move on. I keep checking my phone to see if I have txt because she use to txt me all the time now there's nothing. We've had problems in the past affairs on her part. And I've been faithful 100 percent of our relationship. But we worked past time thought it made us stronger. In the end I'm broken and need to learn how to cope with this and move on and stop think about her 24/7 please help

mirandac
mirandac
Thats what checked out spouses do, they are
Emotionally Disconnected from you and the
marriage. They wait until they find someone
new and they are done.

All of that stuff adds fuel to an already hot fire
during Divorce. My ex had GF all ready and waiting
for Him. He had no remorse or concern for me,
he was done and it was over, HUGS
sjs777
sjs777
my heart goes out to you my friend. it is hard. surround yourself with people who care to help. focus on you and the kids as you have been, and take things one day at a time. pick yourself up when you fall, we'll catch you
dagon1013
dagon1013
Thank you everyone for the support. It has been a struggle more so in wondering what I didn't do wright, or how it went wrong. I know ppl change and grow apart. Just feel more used then anything I love her to death, but I can't help but feel it's may be for the best if she really had been that unhappy for that long. me being happy with her and in love with her can't be the only glue to the marriage if she doesn't feel the same .idk just rambling I guess( lots of thoughts at this moment)
mirandac
mirandac
Ramble away these are bad times to get thru.

The grieving is pretty intense with that comes
Uncomfortable feelings and emotions. I cried
For 4 months after he left.

Joining a divorce care group helps and therapy.
Vent on here often that will help release some
Stress and anxiety and helping others too.

I numbed up when i was near my ex i had to or
I would have exploded. He stayed 10 feet from me
At all times and usually had someone with him We
co shared the property. His business was there.

Try to limit any contact with her, talk about the
Business at hand only. No personal talk, email
Or text. My ex and i wrote in a notebook in the
Kitchen for domestic matters and we both had
lawyers. HUGS