This kind of emotional shock takes time to heal, with no sure timeline for any one person. But I have read from others that we do heal eventually. Wish I knew what best to say to give you hope, I think there is a magic key we all need to find in order to unlock that feeling of peace for ourselves. I'm still searching and best wishes for you on your journey to wellness also.

Learn to love yourself and put yourself first. Do the things that make you happy. Things will get better but you need to want them to. I'm going through a pretty bad situation myself and this is the best part of advice for myself that I have been given. Hang in there.

I feel exactly the same way. No more joy or fun...just going through the motions. My friend told me today to reinvent yourself bc you will never be the same. Its what we have to do I guess.

Your just going through the shock! Its tough but try to have fun atleast your on vacation and not sitting around the house!

Funny thing is we mourn the other person thinking everything is over! The world has suddenly came crashing down, only for them to later reappear in our lives lol! We're all here talking to each other, and after 2 weeks I feel soooo much better bc of this group.

He'll be back. But its time to sit and evaluate yourself, love for yourself, why the relationship ended, what do you want out of life and what are your plans for the future?

It helped me when a friend told me "This is just another chapter of your life." For some reason that seemed to put things in to perspective for me. Life wasn't over, it was just changing. And if I hadn't been forced to make a drastic move/change, I might still be there, because I HATE change.

I am now remarried and I thank God for the divorce, I didn't want at the time.

Thank you all for taking the time to comment. I really appreciate all your words of advice and encouragement. Trust me, I am working on "getting better". It just becomes frustrating when you feel that all your efforts are for not because somehow, no matter what I do, I always end up thinking about him. And I dont want him to take up any more space in my head or my heart. But again, thank you so much! I pray healing, peace, freedom from this, and true joy for us all ;-)

Awesome, one day at a time! He was all I thought about but when I really gained strengthen my thoughts became less and less! Yoyr awesome and moving in the right direction! Love and blessings

This is all normal..over time it gets better..I wouldn't listen too much to the "he'll be back" advice though. There's zero guarantee that'll happen, more often than not it doesn't happen and it's healthier to prepare for life without him. I was trapped too long in that mindset and it did me no good but wallowing in false hope. It WILL get better.

I was stuck in the she will come around mentality. I don't know if she ever will. I realized in the past two days that I need to prepare myself for life without her. I agree with you on not wanting him to take space in your mind and heart anymore but the past happened with him and you cannot necessarily write that out of your life. It's there...yes it sucks and it's hard to forget. You can control your future however and write the story the way that you want to.

Vacations are hard I went on vacation a month ago it was supposed to be me and my husband that wasn't gonna happen so I took my parents instead and it was great but at the same time very sad wanting to share romantic moments on the beach at sunsets seeing couples together but at the same time I felt better like I was getting to start over

It took me 12 years to trust someone e after my one ex broke my heart- never wanted to go through that again, ever. Then I let some douche convince me after chasing me for months that he was safe, wouldn't hurt me and I could trust him. Now, the pain he is putting me through is worse than when I was 21 and went through it. I still can't figure what I did or how it went wrong. .all I can say is next time don't give your whole self, protect your heart

I feel the same. It is getting better, little by little. I'll have a couple of good days now, rather than the constant struggle or maybe a good hour occasionally.
Still I'll be doing well then some trigger will set me back, but not as often and not as hard hitting. Thankfully.
I have been through this with several relationships. Each time it took a little more away from me, left me more fragile, cracked, broken so I was just shatteredI don't know that I'll ever trust another fully again, but I'm praying for strength, wisdom, and grace for each moment, each day - so that I can be a better version of myself for God and myself.
I pray for your healing and for joy to be restored in your life.

I'm joining the lonely hearts club band. I'm struggling with "will she ever come back" and why did she use so many lies in her court documents to get me evicted from my own house, only for her and the kids not to return. My attorney and even the professional supervised visit person were saying... your wife, though you love her has a few issues of her own. No matter how terrible she is being, it's odd not to be filled with anger, instead I'm filled with grief and sadness, as if I'm mourning the death of our marriage and the life we had and the future I thought we would share. Growing old together and seeing our children bring their grandkids to the world. Now I'm alone and going to see my kids on visitation :(. Truly hurting. I hope you heal soon and all of us.