We all have a path that God has for us. Sometimes people are brought into our life to help us find that path. Unfortunately it hurts when they leave. NO it sucks. prayers for you

Yep- if you got a loser.. you can't win. Problem though is him not you.

CA

Hugs

youre not limited to a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation.

that's just a pity party talking.

life choices are better than that!

Jimthzz, I appreciate your feed back. However, my comment was not made out of having a pity party. It was more from things that I've been exposed to and my own experience. I can only speak from my own experience. I'm glad that regardless of what your circumstances are you are able to have that outlook. I pray that I can get there too. God bless you. *Hugs*

I wish I could understand your logic here, but I'm lost with what you're trying to convey.

Lenoire, its not my logic. Thats why I said that Im trying to understand. There have been scenarios where a partner leaves because they feel the other person is not good to them or for them. But then there are the scenarios where the partner leaves because they feel the other person deserves better than what they can offer. When caught up in a circumstance some things just stand out. But I wrote this more in sarcasm than anything. I hope this helps you understand.

Perhaps it is all about compatibility and improving oneself with the experiences. No men and women are completely good or bad. I got subjected to domestic violence 5 years ago. But there were lot of good things about him that I won't deny. Yin and Yan are present in all men and women. We evolve with experiences. It could be good or bad. Maybe we get into a relationship but that person is not meant for us. Everyone deserves the right person as and when they evolve and become better and better.

I just have a hard time with generalizations and self-limiting comments about interactions with either gender.

We all deal with specific people in our lives. Those specific people react to our decisions combined with their own biases.

Are there gender-specific predispositions? Sure.

But the way you described things, you left absolutely no room for success in your relationships. I don't think that you are limited to those two scenarios.

Jimthzz,
Contrary to this post, I don't tend to generalize things either because I know that it may not always apply. But it was a sarcasm based off of those two somewhat apposing ideas that I was recently exposed to. And that's why I said I'm trying to understand. I know there are many other scenarios.
I don't know about success in a future relationship though. I don't think I'm willing to try. I will not risk being in this place ever again. So I don't know. But again, I appreciate your insight.

Shai21, thank you as well.

I'm sorry but I still don't see the purpose of this post, and I'm not being negative, I'm being genuine. To me, this statement is nonsense, and gender has nothing to do with it. Perhaps where you live it does, but where I live, both males and females are capable of it, it's not gender specific.

I was asking for clarification to what you meant, in case I missed something. I would like to introduce a concept to you: Not everyone is going to agree with what you or others write, and they have a right to voice their opinion. Just because they don't agree, it doesn't mean they're being negative, it means they're not agreeing with you, and instead, are stating what they believe in, which is just as valid.

Support comes in many shapes, and it's not always the, "don't worry dear everything will be fine just go to god," approach that works. If it works for you and others, that's great, but it doesn't work for everyone. The whole truth and reality is what works for me, and countless others, to see things for what they really are, and that's what spawns change, not a pat on the back with kind words.

Although this post may have been written out as gender specific that doesn't mean that I think that behavior is attached to one gender. It was just something I came across. And anyone can give their opinion, I welcome that. It helps to see things that you may not. And I appreciate realness because I like to be real myself. However, when you write things like "this statement is nonsense" then to me that comes across negatively. I dont need pats on the back or whatever. But this too is unnecessary. You may have your way of dealing and accepting things but everyone is not like you either. So its just about being sensitive to others. You dont have to agree with me. Thats fine. You have a nice day though!

I'm merely trying to understand the logic of it, and it didn't make any sense to me. I didn't realize you meant it in a sarcastic way. If so then I suppose no offense was taken.