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Anyone out there feel as overwhelmed and frustrated by the demands you face everyday that go along with being a single mom?
I find that one day I'm fine and the next (or next hour) I could get easily set off at something that may not otherwise bother me.
I've been sleep deprived for the two years since my daughter was born. I feel the weight of the world on my shoulder when it comes to the demands I face everyday. I have a hard time getting out of bed in the morning just because of how tired I feel - my body just doesn't feel ready to get up.
I'm a stay at home mom as well as work from home too - not an easy feat at all. I own my own house, which is in a remote area (small town) that requires things like bringing in wood (while trying to recover from a herniated disk in my back), shovelling tons of snow (I live in the north of Canada) from my driveway, walkway, and roof. Being an older house I deal with maintenance such as leaks and other repairs etc. I have an 11 year old dog that just doesn't want to listen anymore and who poos all over my walkway outside - and sometimes inside now (never used to), and who I have to keep confined to an area in the house because my daughter is allergic to his saliva (she's fine petting him but breaks out in hives if in contact with his mouth etc). I could go on and on, but the bottom line is that I just feel overburdened by the demands I face each day and think it's having a real affect on me.
When do you know your moods are because of the demands you face or when it's hormones? I know the demands combined with being sleep deprived have an effect on how I feel and how I handle stress or frustration. I just find myself more frustrated than I've ever felt before.
Anyone else feel this way or understand?
Any feedback is welcome. Thanks.
I find that one day I'm fine and the next (or next hour) I could get easily set off at something that may not otherwise bother me.
I've been sleep deprived for the two years since my daughter was born. I feel the weight of the world on my shoulder when it comes to the demands I face everyday. I have a hard time getting out of bed in the morning just because of how tired I feel - my body just doesn't feel ready to get up.
I'm a stay at home mom as well as work from home too - not an easy feat at all. I own my own house, which is in a remote area (small town) that requires things like bringing in wood (while trying to recover from a herniated disk in my back), shovelling tons of snow (I live in the north of Canada) from my driveway, walkway, and roof. Being an older house I deal with maintenance such as leaks and other repairs etc. I have an 11 year old dog that just doesn't want to listen anymore and who poos all over my walkway outside - and sometimes inside now (never used to), and who I have to keep confined to an area in the house because my daughter is allergic to his saliva (she's fine petting him but breaks out in hives if in contact with his mouth etc). I could go on and on, but the bottom line is that I just feel overburdened by the demands I face each day and think it's having a real affect on me.
When do you know your moods are because of the demands you face or when it's hormones? I know the demands combined with being sleep deprived have an effect on how I feel and how I handle stress or frustration. I just find myself more frustrated than I've ever felt before.
Anyone else feel this way or understand?
Any feedback is welcome. Thanks.
Talk to your doctor. Journal your emotions, hours of sleep with how many hours of quality sleep you think you got. Journal if something set you off, what it was and what occurred with you. Take the journal in to your doctor so that you can discuss if it's just life, or if maybe there's a pattern.
You may realize that you are being too hard on yourself. Or you may find out there is a medical issue behind it all. Good luck!
Be careful when you feel overwhelmed because you might or might not take it out on them. Once when I got very frustrated, I yelled at my little girl and her eyes got so sad that it brought me down to my knees. Seek counseling.
Time will heal if you do your part and allow it.
I sleep very little mostly because my kids wake me up in the middle of the night plus the fact that I intake a lot of caffine.
You may be just tired and that is why you feel overwhelmed and are not as able to handle the stress as someone that has the required amount of sleep.
Can you hire a kid to shovel the snow and someone to make repairs on your home?
This way its not all on you.
You are only one person, you can't do everything.
4queens, I like your idea about keeping track of patterns... Last night happened to be a particulary rough night of sleep for me, combined with an early morning. I plan on letting my doctor know (although she's aware of what things are like for me right now).
I love the work I do from home - my dream, when I get the chance to actually get work done. I do have scheduled time that I try and go by.
Re: getting out for "me" time... I agree. Unfortunately, it's not always easy. As I mentioned I live in a rather remote area and anywhere I go is about half an hour away, and I don't have relief either right now. I'm with my daughter day and night, including weekends. So, yes, I know I need a break. I had a couple of things I do - playgroups (great for both of us) and a church that had a nursury that watches kids, while adults listen to service. However, as I mentioned, everything is far, and a day like today - snow storm - so I missed taking her (and me!) to a playgroup today. I have one I started in town, which reconvenes in a couple of days. I guess the holidays put a damper on sheduled events like that, where I really felt I had a bit of breaks during these outings.
Unfortunately, I can't really afford to hire someone to do the snow or other things for me. I get help from time to time.
1ToughCookie, What's Lexapro? Just curious.
I know much of my problem is the lack of sleep, which is mainly because my daughter has never been a sound sleeper, and even when she is, she wakes at least once a night. Combine that with the fact that I feel everything takes from me - so many demands on me, and I know I need to find ways to nurture myself (although sleep is a big factor).
Thanks everyone.