Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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I have been married with my husband for 6 years the first 4 years of our marriage we had a very good relationship & love but the last 2 years the relationship became very weak we tried a few times to go to Therapist but things did not last too long.
Recently, I started to feel that my husband has a love for another woman besides me.
Yesterday I saw a lot of loving messages on his cell phone with his Girl work made.
I was very scared about this, I tried to have a conversation with him about our relationship but he was very cold, I said that if he doesn't want to talk about it, I don't know what will happen to our relationship, He said if i want to divorce, is he ready, but he thinks that he will find a new bride faster than I will find a new groom.
The question is from your point of view, what should we do now, should we work to fix our broken marriage or because he fell in love with his friend and we have a very weak relationship and it is really possible that I would rather grow with a other one, should I Start seriously thinking about divorce?
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
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Years ago, I won a mirrored armoire from my job. It's in my bedroom but I rarely stand in front of it. Yesterday, I had to have a dexascan done so I had to change into a gown. There was a full length mirror in the changing room. I'm aware that I gained 5 to 7 pounds over the last year from cheating on Keto but I didn't know what it looked like. It was a reality check.
What I hear from this conversation as you wrote about, is that your husband does not seem to care if the marriage lasts or not. He seems quite mean or cruel with that statement about he will find a new wife faster than you will find a new husband.
This is a manipulative put down. This is a control tactic. Be careful as. he won't play nice in any divorce. He wants his cake and eat it too or a wife and a lover. Additionally, it doesn't sound like he gives a shake about your feelings.
And to say if you want a divorce, he is ready means HE IS READY to divorce but he is putting it all on you to initiate so he can play victim. I would assume he wants a divorce. Be wise about this, be careful with this kind of personality.
You can't fix his personality which seems to be the problem. So one spouse trying to fix the other isn't going to work. I have two suggestions: get yourself to a good family law attorney for a short consult ASAP. So you know your rights and obligations should a divorce happen, so you can plan.
Second suggestion, watch the Dr. Ramani YouTube videos about narcissism. I am not diagnosing him but maybe you will learn something you will benefit from.
For the last 2 years, my husband and I have a slightly weaker relationship. I have never thought of the word ''divorce'' . Because I still feel the strong love that I had with my husband the first 4 years after our marriage.
But my husband thought otherwise. He fell in love with his workmate. And that's where it all ended.
Yes, last week at the New Year's party, my husband kissed me at the family party And this weekend he kissed his co-worker in our house! It is very difficult but I am done with him. And I would be able to save my Merrige when I go to therapy Timelly.