Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I see nothing good about us still being friends on Facebook. I just want him out of my life right now. I want to move on and I'm trying to get rid of everything that reminds me of him. Today I texted him because I found some of his stuff and wanted to either give it back or get rid of it. It took him forever to respond (I could tell he read it cuz my phone let's me know) and he only did finally respond because I said I was going to good will and if he didn't respond I was taking it along. I said it in a nice way. I'm just trying to be an adult here and get rid of all his stuff so I can move on. I thought I'd be nice instead of just getting rid of it. For once I actually do not want him back. I just want to Move on! I think he thinks I'm making up excuses to see him. But I'm not. I just want my stuff and him to have his stuff so I can say good bye! Am I being immature? I'm sick of him. He'soso vain. I know he'd use me for sex and throw me out again.I know he's moved on. I want to too! So can't he just be an adult, answer his phone and let me move on in a civil manner?he makes everything difficult. He's an a$$
No, you aren't being immature. You do need to put it in the past and to move on. He's going to be a butt b/c he can. He showed you that the last time you were together, as I recall. Don't hold your breath waiting for him to do the right thing now.
Block, and DONT unblock. Block people who will give you a window into what he's doing too. No Contact, it's the way to go.
Give him a deadline, if he doesn't pick his stuff up it's gone.
You can leave it on a porch, curb, or with a neutral person, you all don't have to see each other for the "stuff exchange."
Unfortunately, I'd agree that you need to accept the fact that you may not get your things back from him. If it's particularly expensive or family heirloom or something, consider telling him you'll file a police report for that item. Otherwise, accept that some material items are a small price to pay to get your freedom and sanity back.
Stay in the "I want to move on" frame of mind, and that will help immensely.