I am just wondering why you would want her back if 'she wanted so much and gave so little". You deserve a lot better than that. I was married 30 yrs and it took me a long time to realize that he just didn't care for me and I had to move on. I deserved a better life and you do too. You will find someone that will give you back the love and care you deserve. It just takes time to find the right one.

Seek counseling - and no, don't beg anyone to come back to you. You say you believe she's moved on, how can it cross your mind to beg? I am so sorry - I can imagine how difficult this is for you being that this was your first relationship - Please don't give up on yourself. If you don't believe in yourself, who will.
Seek healing and emotional stability and love will come to you in time.
Good luck.

I am so very sorry for how you feel.
You said:
" It was a weird situation because she wanted so much and gave so little. I tried my best and wasnt enough."
Heck NO you do NOT want her back. You gave your best----this girl is not worth your time.
My son was 27 when he got his first girlfriend. He is normal, just picky. His big requirement is he wants someone nice. Seems like that's a hard thing to find these days. He is a checker in a grocery store so he had plenty to choose from. I do believe they are soul mates. I love her too and her family is terrific.

Please do not settle for someone like that girl. Someone will come along that will be perfect for you and will want to give to you like you give to them!!!! Be patient, you are young yet.
Good luck.

You only dated a short time, scary that her child was brought in to things so quickly! What was she looking for? Someone to support her and her child? Sorry but you two should have just been enjoying each other's company and getting to know each other not making serious commitments in so short of a time. Honestly you shouldn't even have met her child if it was only 3 months.
Don't beg for her back, learn from this experience and look for a woman who deserves you!

I can sum up the answer in three words friend: Oh hell no! Never ever beg. You will meet someone who is right for you, that is for sure. Why bother about someone who doesn't care enough about you now?

Your self-esteem is low, and that can be fixed, when you start improving that, you will like yourself more, as you like yourself more, you will start becoming more confident around women, you will start to reach out more, and THEN you will find someone who is WORTHY OF YOU. NEVER EVER BEG. All the best to you.

thanks guys. Yea she wanted to be married in a year and wanted me to move in after a month. This was my first relationship so idk what I was doing. I have never had a woman tell me I was handsome or accepted me before her. So I don't understand why I cant met someone when all my friends have had tons of relationships. Basically she wanted a dad right now and I couldn't do it. I'm not a ugly guy not brad pitt either but I never get any attention from girls. So when i met her i figured she was the one. Not having sex till her was a big deal for me too. I know my anxiety issues dont help the situation and right now I have fallen in a black whole since she left. I am very lonely and just want someone who cares about me again. So next time what do I do differently? Thanks again friends

In answer to your question friend, have faith in yourself and stop telling yourself negatives. You get back what you truly believe about yourself, good or bad. When you are feeling unsure about yourself and not confident, you not only feel vulnerable and desperate, but you also fall prey to those who would manipulate and control for their own needs, and end up being used. Take a pause, look at all the good things about yourself (there are many, I assure you), write them down, and focus on them. Then reach out slowly and consistently. Women all love a guy who is funny, who is comfortable in himself. All you really have to be is you, and then project those qualities out every day in everyday situations, and you will start to attract women who are looking for those qualities. Hope this helps:)

I think you should send her on a scavenger hunt with papers and small presents, and pictures --

You don't tell her who you are, or what the scavenger hunt is all about, you just make it fun for her ... after a short while, of doing things like (counting the pillars at a museum -- or the rose bushes in a garden) -- or picking up a $10.00 ice-cream gift card -- you finally start to be more romantic and share memories with her.

Worst case -- you get nothing
Best case -- you make her think really hard.

I would not give up --

this is not begging --- this is a creative way of getting to her head without even calling her.

Its also very romantic.

Be sure and send your emails, or whatever from a different number that can't be traced back to you-- or a different email -- so for a while she has no idea who is doing this.

Its not strange or weird because everywhere she goes is a public place and fun. Some of the things could relate to her child, like children's museums or playgrounds

When I was going through a separation that ended in divorce -- I spent over a year with a private chef teaching me how to cook. I took dancing lessons. I bent over backwards trying to win her back. And in the end it didn't work out. But I don't regret it one bit and I can tell you other ladies have loved my cooking and dancing.

It made me sleep better at night as well because I took the extra step and was humble in my attempt to win her back. I never asked myself 'what if' because I did everything within my power to answer that question before it was asked.

I think that we all know that asking or begging for them back is basically a huge no. It is seen as a huge turn off and if they ever do want you back it will be because they have had some space and time alone to reflect on it.
You know, we are all going through something similar. I also really want to talk to my ex and I really miss her a lot and I also want her back. You obviously don't just forget someone quickly so unfortunately it's a feeling that you are gonna have to deal with for a little while, and you have to be strong. I end up repeating this mantra every time my thoughts stray to her I think "It's ok to think about her, now you have to stop". I say that to myself many times a day.
Look, you have some other issues going on too. You are afraid of never having a gf again, not really the best basis for a serious relationship. Also it's your first and only experience with someone and that can also distort the reality in your head.
I remember my first relationship, I also thought that I would never find someone else and I held on for too long, it took 3 and a half years, 2 of them where I was predominantly unhappy because I thought that I would never find anyone again. After I eventually ended it, I quickly realized that of course It wasn't true.
You mention twice in your post about feeling "normal" which I find particularly interesting. Heartbreak and breakups are normal, and don't worry so much. You found someone once, and you will find someone again. Make sure that you are the best that you can be so that you are ready when that time comes ok?

I can appreciate that Joe100 has a different take on this situation, but, in my opinion, the 'worst case scenario' is not just 'you get nothing,' but rather you end up losing your sense of pride and dignity. I went through this not too long ago, in a situation quite similar to yours. It was the first guy I'd had true feelings for since I broke up with my long-time boyfriend two years ago. This guy and I only dated for a few months, but I was so into him, and he was just kinda...whatever. Anyway, he dumped me, and I ended up doing the begging, pleading, crying, 'What did I do?' thing. PLEASE. Take it from me. DON'T DO IT. If she comes back, you'll wonder if it's just because you begged and she feels sorry for you. The more likely scenario is that you'll be rejected, and that sucks too. So, hold your head high and move on. it sounds like you don't miss her so much as you miss having a partner and being in a relationship. Get into therapy if you aren't already to work on your self-esteem issues (I had to do that as well. It really helped!), and date when you feel ready. She is probably not the only girl who's ever wanted you, but rather your anxiety and self-esteem issues have held you back from being able to put yourself in a position to find suitable people to date. Work on that first, and the rest will fall into place. Good luck!